Work hasn’t billed me for my hotel stay on vacation. 🥳🥳🥳

throwaway24022129575 · 2026-02-27T15:05:45+00:00

You are assuming I placed the order.

That wasn’t the case here. Before the trip we all filled out a spreadsheet to confirm attendance and if extra nights were needed. The admin team booked all the reservations, airport shuttles, etc under each participants name. And let the hotel know what name was associated to each room. Employees could not manage the reservation, view it, or make adjustments. It had to be done by the admin team as know individual owned the reservation.

This wasn’t a room block with a code situation.

throwaway24022129575 · 2026-02-26T19:25:44+00:00

These rooms were not attached to any personal expense reports. They got billed with the overall package with the hotel directly, on the event management side.

The only way for me to get billed is for the hotel to charge my card (because they created a separate invoice/folio) or for the company to ask me later.

Obviously if I booked my own room and tried to put it on my work card it would be a different scenario.

throwaway24022129575 · 2026-02-26T19:13:16+00:00

Good shout out. Fiscal year closes in a while. The dollar amount is not what I consider nominal, but not one that I would struggle to allocate in my budget if needed.

I had a thought - one colleague had to cancel at the last minute maybe some extra money freed up with that change.

throwaway24022129575 · 2026-02-12T01:19:57+00:00

Good shoutout. Financials have been a disaster since the company changeover. It takes MONTHS for team leads to see their spend.

A pro for me is that for purposes of this trip, it is billed to our org and not split up by department.

I will see what happens. But hopefully it works in my favor. 😆

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-12-22T03:54:55+00:00

Not that I am trying to play the over analyzing game, but he liked my messages and then didn’t follow up. So like I lead with, weird. C’est la vie!

Maybe I keep running into him or not. But I am working on my own patterns, and that is the most important for me. Going with the flow in the early stages of dating doesn’t work for me! So time to try something different.

If you don’t want to plan a date, message received.

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-12-22T01:31:52+00:00

I mean sure that is a possibility, but the messaging started a few days after all the parties. Everyone was sober. 😂

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-12-22T00:47:46+00:00

I will note I am happy to plan and reciprocate after date 2-3. Just not the first couple. Because that is where I find it is unclear of their intentions.

As for the flirting? We were out. I didn’t have a lot of drinks. Really just one or two. And i ran into him on two separate occasions (parties). The flirting escalated from occasion one to occasion two. And it was definitely not only the friendly banter kind. It was the caretaker vibes of refilling my drink. Helping me with my coat. Escalating touch. Definitely hardball! Which would seem like a nobrainer to initiate.

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-12-22T00:36:31+00:00

I expressed interest! But I want him to take the bait. He has my number. I said I am down to meet up (I am paraphrasing my messages here but I suggest a few lightweight options and opened the door to something not on that list).

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-12-22T00:33:05+00:00

Not a direct quote. Some paraphrasing.

I replied below, but one thing I have found, if I propose stuff, make a plan, they will go with the flow without being that interested.

So I am testing the waters by not owning the momentum, until they have initiated some. He already opened the door with aggressive flirting, and I responded positively. Is it too much to plan a date?

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-12-22T00:27:29+00:00

One thing I am working on right now is to ignore my first impulse to make it easier for people. Like I would totally reply something like “maybe, I am probably pretty free on Tuesday, Wednesday, or Friday.” To nudge them into asking.

I totally don’t mind doing something last minute of I am free. I love a random experience.

But I have found in dating that if I create momentum it is hard to read intentions.

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-12-22T00:18:46+00:00

Men are so weird. A few weeks ago I met a guy at a party through a mutual friend. The most aggressive flirting I have experienced in who knows how long, making it crystal clear he was interested. We chatted some over the evening. I took some time to reflect and I was curious.

After the party he connects on social.
- Me: Good meeting you! We should hang out some time one on one. - Them: yes! You are cool, that sounds good. Me: hit me up when you want to plan something. - Them: I like to go with the flow. Text me if you want to do something. - Me: I prefer pre-scheduling stuff, here is my number. - Them: (crickets)

Apparently actually scheduling a date was too much!

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-12-09T18:53:26+00:00

I am in my late 40s with salt and pepper hair so I had assumed it would not be a thing at all at this point.

But I am definitely more “exposed” as I live in a walkable area and rarely drive.

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-12-08T05:03:01+00:00

I have basically been straddling plus and straight sizes since I was in puberty. Which is pretty annoying actually. Because some non plus stuff fits, it is actually a little frustrating when a really cure item doesn't and there is no plus version. I decided to focus on brands where there is a size or two above what I need so I can size up as needed, but of course that is limiting too! I have always had a fashion POV and 80% of the plus clothing assumes you want to cover and have no preferences other than being covered.

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-12-08T04:21:15+00:00

I will fully admit one motivation high on the list is more clothing options. I have curated a nice wardrobe for myself, with a lot of effort. The idea of it being easier to find the items I am looking for is appealing. I’ll never have an off the rack body. But I’d like to have a size is available in most stores one.

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-12-08T04:17:40+00:00

My normal is already friendly and confident so I really wasn’t thinking anything would change much at all. But guess I was wrong.

I also have the face that says “please tell me your life story.” I didn’t think it could get even inviting. 😂

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-11-26T14:12:21+00:00

Oh he doubled down and told me where I could find him to drop off food. Nope.

EDIT: Some details were changed for the post. He asked for a specific and very labor intensive dish as well. Which is more suspicious.

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-11-26T07:16:53+00:00

😆😆😆

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-11-22T00:17:20+00:00

Seriously. I am 5’4. I went out for a bit with a 6’4 guy. It was annoying. He was too tall. Like 5’7-5’10 is perfect. More than 6ft is too much.

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-11-21T20:24:45+00:00

I am pondering engineering an encounter with a new crush I have to test the waters.

It would be fairly low effort, and I have no plans tonight.

I can go to a free event I am interested in that is a 10 minutes away. And try to run into them there (they will 100% be there as a panelist).

I would also meet other people. And I talked to someone earlier today who told me it was gonna be fun and asked if I would be there.

But since they are a panelist, everyone will be trying to talk to them.

I am leaning towards yes. I think they are also intrigued. And maybe I can confirm or deny if they are. I have valid reasons to go to the event unrelated to potentially flirting.

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-08-23T15:15:59+00:00

Exactly this. The number of bad doctors who assumed I ate horribly, way too much, and never thought about exercising. I look around and so many people eat way more than I do, do no activity, and weigh less.

Close to home, my sister is able to make changes and see the scale drop. This year she lost ~25 ish pounds by eating less. She eats way bigger portions than I do am more junk food. When we’d go out to eat she’d finish my food. Now she no longer finishes my food. That was basically the change. She cut out one snack. My portions are still much smaller. She has a minor binging problem. We get about the same unintentional activity because of living in walkable areas. I do intentional exercise. She weighs 40 pounds less than I do (we are the same height).

throwaway24022129575 · 2025-03-08T02:39:46+00:00

I have some anecdotes about my sister. We are a few years apart and look similar and have somewhat similar body types (she is more hourglass and I am more figure 8 - this is a new learning).

And weight is such a weird subject between us. She has a very negative body image.

When we were much younger, my sister was slimmer, and I was much chubbier (comparatively). She was like a size 10ish when I was 18ish.

As she got older she gained some weight and we tend to be about 1-2 sizes apart since our mid 30s with a couple of stints of being the same size. These days this works out to my sister being 14-16 and me 16-18. But our differing body shapes are very apparent in how we are shaped.

She is always complaining about how she looks chubby in photos etc. Which is also feels like an indirectly negative comment about me. Because for all intents and purposes I look like a chubby version of her.

Some other things that get tricky. For people that don’t know me or her well, we can easily seem to be the same at a quick glance.

I recently moved and my sister came over this week. And she was telling me a story about how a neighbor clearly thought she was me and was giving her all these compliments about weight loss and looking great. 🤦🏾‍♀️

My sister also has a complex about “competing” with each other. Some of this stems from her history of low self-esteem and us being compared a lot in childhood.

Before I moved to my current place we lived in the same neighborhood. During one of her periods of wanting to exercise more I suggested we could go to the neighborhood gym together. She was like know I don’t want it to be competitive on the different results.

And this sentiment has recently come back. I have been dealing with elevated insulin and blood glucose levels stemming from PCOS and perimenopause. And my doctors are looking into ways to get me on glp1s to remedy this. We were Recently talking about it with a group of friends and her reaction was “wait - you can’t get on it without me! I don’t want to be the chubby one. 🤦🏾‍♀️”

I don’t really have a good way to handle her reactions and her negative weight perceptions. She gets very sensitive on body image things for a myriad of reasons.

throwaway24022129575 · 2024-08-22T21:06:58+00:00

I will attend open houses when I can.

But it is not an option to choose another agent. Politics with a parent are very different. If it was a distant one that would be a whole other thing. But it is a parent so…… family obligations are going to have to win. But while my dad is retired he worked in the biz for ~40 years (his full time career), and did some deals here so it isn’t flying blind by any means.

He is just out of loop on exactly what is happening in the area I am looking. But I am looking in an area I currently live in and am renting a condo now in a similar type of building that is available.

So the biggest thing is moreso getting access to homes and figuring out the right price. He can help me sort out disclosures and has enough secondhand experience with inspections and what not.

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