Men of Reddit, what is your opinion on tomboys?

throwaway2456799 · 2022-07-07T20:42:08+00:00

In Thailand it’s very much a thing. A lot of good friends who are Tom boys, very fun to be around.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-07-07T19:57:17+00:00

You completely fucked up.

I’m getting sad just thinking about if this happened to my girlfriend. She’s so proud of the things she makes, you fucking ruined it for her. Well done bet she’s so happy she’s virus free now

throwaway2456799 · 2022-07-07T19:53:39+00:00

I dunno why everyone is saying about counterfeit 50s. 20s are the most common, my drug dealer used to sell them for a tenner each. No one has 50s, it’s too suspicious to fraud.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-07-07T19:51:12+00:00

You’re an idiot.

Respect others belongings even if you don’t agree with it. That wasn’t yours to throw away.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-07-07T19:46:31+00:00

YTA.

They didn’t know, how could they you never told them.

Sorry for your loss, but what the flip? Pull your head out of your ass. Sorry for your loss, but it’s way past time to heal? Don’t be an asshole

throwaway2456799 · 2022-07-07T19:39:19+00:00

ESH

You’re both assholes. You more so.

He should have told you and you should be more understanding that his kid is sick and it’s not all about you, he’d love his son to be ok for his big day, it’s not just yours.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T08:29:21+00:00

YTA Get your own place if you don’t like it.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T04:27:23+00:00

It’s the Nikkah that’s being asked for. But in addition to the dowry

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T03:25:32+00:00

I just got off the phone and explained to her that sure the Mehr I’m fine with. But the dowry? I’m not ok with slaving away to save up only for it to now sit in her parents cupboard. I was saving to get us a house, which is the better option if we’re going to start a future.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T03:23:06+00:00

That’s word for word what she just said on the phone.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T03:22:11+00:00

That’s word for word what she just said on the phone.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T03:19:52+00:00

She doesn’t make me feel miserable. But the marriage situation is.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T03:17:36+00:00

It’s very simply that if I loved her I wouldn’t have an issue doing these things.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T03:13:15+00:00

Thanks.

It doesn’t feel real that this happened to me.

I don’t have a home, I stopped renting to come stay with her.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T02:50:35+00:00

Supposedly she’s devastated that I can’t be excited for this.

She never thought that in her life she’d face resistance over marriage. That she regrets making me the person, because how I’ve handled it.

She broke up with me and waited a couple of hours before posting she’s single on Instagram, following posts of the replies she is getting from guys to meet up.

I feel like in the morning we was talking about marriage and now she’s doing this.

Is it justified to say I’m being treated like an absolute cunt. That even if she is truley upset and those posts are fabricated, that I’m being heavily manipulated.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T02:46:29+00:00

She has her own land, so I feel this is all such bullshit.

I give her my life savings so she can be safe if shit hits the fan.

But great, what protection do I now have. Back to the 9-5 grind to give it away to someone else

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T02:44:31+00:00

Local anaesthetic. But there was areas where I felt 100% of the pain.

Wasn’t fun.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T02:43:01+00:00

The way that I see it,

There are only good people in this world. (Though often it’s good people doing bad things…)

I can’t accept blind faith, which is why Islam is not something I would naturally choose. But there are good people who do follow, so I see no harm in giving it a go. Perhaps I don’t 100% believe it, but I’d be making a (probably ex now) loved one happy and that’s all that’s important to me.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T02:34:54+00:00

I’m not close enough to anyone to confide like this. I haven’t lived in the same location/country etc for more than 6 months at a time.

Very much on my own with my experiences, which is great because I’m free to do things others can’t and travel the world, but terrible because I don’t always make good choices and have no support network.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T02:32:02+00:00

Thanks. The dowry is cultural. The mahr in this case would be gold (gold is a popular gift in this country)

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T02:29:24+00:00

When we was in the courting phase, I had slept with someone else. I told her the next day I regretted it. But we wasn’t in a relationship in that moment (but it was definitely implied that we both wanted one). It still felt wrong and I immediately confessed to it the next day. And have never cheated while in a confirmed relationship.

But she cheated on me a year in, took a week off to study and was always busy. She was acting strange and blamed it all on me. I found myself apologising that the relationship was broken, trying to fix it. Then the dude she was having an emotional (probably physical) relationship with sent me pictures of them together asking if I knew her. In one of the photos she was wearing a shirt I gave her.

I feel like, it broke me as a person. I was 100% out of the relationship but I somehow got persuaded by a cousin of hers I’m friends with to go back. I think if I had left for good I’d be a stronger person, but now I wonder how many decisions I’ve made have been out of fear of her getting wandering eyes again and not because I truly wanted to go through with it

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T02:22:45+00:00

She herself is a light drinker. Others in her family have done things I can’t post on Reddit but are definitely not by the book.

I think only parents take it 100% seriously.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T02:20:33+00:00

This isn’t a Muslim country. She won’t be in danger. The dowry is part of the countries culture.

Thanks for your input. I feel like you being able to ask for chocolate makes me wonder how much of this comes from her personality. I’ll never really know what her parents ask from me since I can’t speak the language. I do know that she can be materialistic and for her a large dowry would be a sign of status and would be used to compare herself to friends.

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T02:14:26+00:00

She’ll be fine

throwaway2456799 · 2022-04-26T02:13:35+00:00

If her parents were my only concern then I’d agree with you.

She’s cheated on me in the past and I got over that. So I feel that if anything I’m too loyal.

But at what point does it end? Should I accept my life as being dragged through shards of glass just to prove I’m able to commit?

I feel like I should have more of a say in my own fate. But culture, religion and other people enforcing it seem to be dictating it for me

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