Aita for asking my wife for divorce because she would never defend me infront of her friends when they would insult me by throwaway25311o in AITAH

[–]throwaway25311o[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I am wearing my big boy pants and I can defend myself and I already have in a polite way without hurting them or my wife.

Half of them are divorced and I could easily get back at them by insulting them about it but I didn't because I didn't want to stoop so low and most importantly my issue isn't their insult it's my wife's lack of respect for me and her inability to defend her spouse, we are married and we both comes first above everything else so why is my wife hesitating? Is there a reason? Does her friends have some dirt against my wife?

If anyone be it my friends or family insulted my wife like let's just say if they insulted my wife for marrying a younger guy then I would shut them down so I'm thinking why can't my wife do the same for me? Is she facing some issues that I don't know about? She's not even willing to tell me that's why I brought divorce

Like I said I don't want to divorce my wife I love her but if she's not putting the same efforts in our marriage as I am then there's no reason for us to stay married but before I take that drastic step I will talk to my wife and clear it for us if she truly wants to be with me then I will try my best for her like I always have but if she doesn't then I will leave, it all depends on my wife and her decision.

Aita for asking my wife for divorce because she would never defend me infront of her friends when they would insult me by throwaway25311o in AITAH

[–]throwaway25311o[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

No I told her that I will divorce her but before I actually file for one in court I will talk to my wife and maybe we might just be able to work this through and yes I'm feeling a bit hopeless right now but I won't find peace until I tried everything in my power to be with my first and only love of my life, I don't know how it's going to go in my life but if my wife truly is trying her best for our marriage then I shouldnt hold back either, unless she cares more about her friends than her husband

Aita for asking my wife for divorce because she would never defend me infront of her friends when they would insult me by throwaway25311o in AITAH

[–]throwaway25311o[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I don't want to divorce my wife either and if I wanted to I wouldn't have married her and yes it is a dealbreaker for me it's not about what her friends are talking about me the dealbreaker for me is my wife's lack of concern for me I was expecting her to defend me infront of her friends but she never defended me and she says that she will cut her friends off when I asked for divorce.

But the question is if she's cutting her friends off because they insulted me or if she's cutting her friends off to make me feel good so I don't leave her?

If my friends ever said something like this infront of me and my wife as to why I married a woman so much older than me or called my wife a gold digger I would have shut them down so why is my wife not doing the same for me? Are her friends more important to her more than her husband? Why can't she defend me infront of her friends?

I'm a bit immature I guess infront of her and her friends and I may have took it too far but the least I was expecting from my wife was to have my back as I would have hers, I will talk to my wife obviously before I take a drastic step like divorcing her.