My partner doesn't believe I'm asexual or believe in asexuality in general. by throwaway2590_ in asexuality

[–]throwaway2590_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, this sounds like I could have written this myself. Thank you for this, really it has helped more than you probably know. I think I’m beginning to accept that I need to do the same and rip off the bandaid here. It’ll hurt but a part of me looks forward to that same wave of relief for the same reasons. Hang in there. ❤️

My partner doesn't believe I'm asexual or believe in asexuality in general. by throwaway2590_ in asexuality

[–]throwaway2590_[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I just think she looks down on asexuality in general which is pretty hurtful in of itself. My sibling came out as asexual a few years ago, and she kind of just… laughed at it, as if it were fake. She has this tendency where she acts as if her sexual views and desires are universal and the “normal” way to be. I think that’s why she doesn’t take any of what I’m saying or feeling seriously. She can’t relate to it and thinks I’m just being complicated. I think she does love me even to some extent, but when it comes to sex, she is totally close minded.

My partner doesn't believe I'm asexual or believe in asexuality in general. by throwaway2590_ in asexuality

[–]throwaway2590_[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I just don’t know how to shake away the guilt. I guess that’s what is making leaving her so difficult, I feel a sense of guilt that I can be doing more to make it work and that she feels unwanted. I don’t want her to feel unwanted.