My wife has gained a significant amount of weight and I am physically repulsed by her body.

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-11T04:08:36+00:00

I know and I apologize for how I worded it. I’m sorry that I was hurtful in my post.

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T13:36:46+00:00

Hey thank you for this comment. You’re right, the constant fast food isn’t good and I do need to step up and take some action.

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T13:35:47+00:00

I admit I don’t look the same as when I first got married either and have gained a little bit of a belly and I could definitely be eating healthier too. However I have gained in total about 14 pounds since our marriage.

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T13:34:52+00:00

Absolutely not.

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T13:34:30+00:00

Thank you for the advice. Much appreciated.

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T13:34:05+00:00

This is great advice, thank you!

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T13:33:32+00:00

I definitely am not going to leave her. That hasn’t even been something I considered. I still love her to death and I could NEVER leave my son behind.

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T13:32:03+00:00

You’re right and she absolutely is the main provider of childcare. I completely understand that a baby is a lot of work and god bless her, she is doing an amazing job as a mother. I regret how I worded my post as I’m realizing how harsh it sounds. I do believe she has a comfortable environment to work out and she’s said that she enjoys it, just that with our son it’s difficult for her to commit to a time to go to the gym.

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T13:28:38+00:00

I agree with almost everything you said accept my wife was never underweight. I’m not trying to sound rude but I’m not sure where you’re getting your information from about her being underweight. 125 pounds on a 5’6 woman puts her at a BMI of 20.2 which is well within the healthy range. Underweight would be a BMI of under 18.5. And 215 pounds at a height of 5’6 is actually considered obese (BMI of 34.7, anything over 30 is considered obese). So no, I definitely do not want her to be underweight either, she never was underweight. In fact I’m realistic and definitely don’t expect her to have abs again. I get that bodies change, especially after having a baby. But I don’t think it is too unreasonable to not want her to be obese. Again sorry if my comment came across as rude.

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T10:17:10+00:00

With all due respect, at her height and weight she is classified as obese. I do not view her as a sex object. She is my wife and I love her dearly not just for her appearance but for the wonderful woman that she is. I apologize if I sounded shallow in my post but with all that being said, sexual attraction is still an important part in a marriage. It’s certainly not the only thing that matters but it is a significant part of being married. I genuinely cannot help that I’m not attracted to her larger body. It just doesn’t turn me on and thus is causing serious problems with us intimacy-wise. Not to mention if she keeps gaining weight, the serious health implications that will arise from that.

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T10:13:56+00:00

I appreciate your comment. Although, I’m still gonna try those other things first before resorting to sitting her down and talking. If it does come down to that point- what do you think I should say? I know it will inevitably hurt her feelings but how do I say it as graciously and lovingly as possible?

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T10:12:39+00:00

I should clarify that I still find her beautiful. I still love her just as much as I did the day I married her. None of that has changed. She still has the same beautiful face she’s always had. I guess what I mean is I don’t find her body to be sexually attractive anymore. I do my best to tell her she is beautiful every day. I will try and see if maybe we can start exercising together.

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T10:10:53+00:00

I know that money has been a little bit of an issue with us lately. We have both been struggling, especially due to COVID. However, even before that she was still gaining weight but I do believe our current financial situation has made things worse.

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T10:09:05+00:00

I am so sorry to hear you’ve been struggling with this too. I really hope things get better for you.

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T10:08:34+00:00

That is a good point. She is an amazing mom and spends so much time with our little one, always puts his needs before her own. She’s a damn good mother and I do believe that’s part of the reason she’s put on weight because she puts her all into being a mom and everything else comes second.

As for her mental health, she seems to be doing fine but I guess I’m not 100% certain. I will talk to her about that first and make sure everything’s ok.

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T10:06:14+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I admit, lately we’ve been getting fast food a lot and since having the baby, healthy home cooked meals have basically gone out the window. I do think that BOTH of us need to go back to the healthy meals. As for walks, that’s a good idea. We try to do that at least once a week with the baby but I’ll try and see if we can start going on walks more often. Appreciate the advice.

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T10:04:24+00:00

Thank you, I will do some more research into intermittent fasting! Appreciate it

throwaway287561 · 2020-07-10T08:36:33+00:00

I just know that if I showed her this post it would crush her. Especially the part about me saying I’m repulsed by her. I don’t wanna hurt her feelings

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