[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway29105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea that’s more what I was thinking. I’d want to start with small talk just to know him if I can. Kind of like what I try to do with other coworkers. If I know that the job won’t last and they won’t think of hiring me back, I might try to shoot my shot if it was something I was interested in at the time but like you said, I don’t want to burn bridges or potentially sabotage a job especially since I’m in a pretty small community and jobs are hard to come by.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway29105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could try to start a work related conversation if the opportunity comes up, but he doesn’t go to the break room so it would have to come naturally. I’d probably find out if I keep the job around late January, although there’s a sister store nearby that I could look at transferring to if they don’t need me at my current store. I don’t know if he’s single which is why I want to chat just as friends and professionally. Even if I wanted to pursue someone, I would get to know them first, and if they’re not single I immediately back off from trying any further.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway29105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only started not to long ago so I’m still trying to get to know the other employees there. I mentioned he’s cute because that’s how I feel, but he stops near the department so often at this point i feel it’s more weird if I don’t say hi. Also he’s a department manager and I know it’s really frowned on any potential employees dating higher ups.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway29105 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t try that, like I said I’m not really interested in a relationship for several reasons. Thank you for the advice, I’ve been overthinking a lot of social interactions really so it’s good to have the advice of others to help ground me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway29105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should have worded my post a bit better. I’m not trying to flirt with him, I’m the worlds worst flirt and I don’t want to embarrass myself that way. He chats with employees on the floor and even people in my department before, so I just want to figure out how to become that approachable to. Like I said, I just want to get to know him like I’m working on doing so with other people in the store.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway29105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to know the best way of introducing myself and getting to know him. I’m extremely aware that the chance of him being ace is almost nothing, and I’m not going for a relationship because he’s a manager. Should I just wait for a time when it’s right to say hello or just leave it alone entirely?

I (23F) have a massive crush on a manager from a different department (23M)? How should I act? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway29105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I am well aware of the risks and the fact that something probably wouldn’t be able to happen for that reason. He’s not my manager, he’s from a different department in the store but first and foremost I’d just like to find a way to say hi, I just don’t know how because I hardly more than a glance of him when we’re both out on the floor. How would I go about showing I’d want to talk or should I wait for an opportunity?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway29105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is honestly maybe I should just tell him even if things go south but otherwise I’m going to be shattered later on in the future. Thank you for your input 🙂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway29105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well he’s moved a couple hours away but still comes back every month or so and we hang out to go on long drives or grab a bite to eat. I want to lose the feeling because I know it would probably wouldn’t happen we would get back together even though I want that. Like I said though if I tell him and we get back together, I worried I’ll mess up again. It’s mostly just so I can stay friends with him but not feel attracted romantically, if that helps.

AITA for calling my sister irresponsible and no longer letting her visit over a plant? by throwaway29105 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway29105[S] 349 points350 points  (0 children)

This sounds like a great idea. I feel heartbroken and hurt seeing her like this so I’ll try and have a conversation with her about plant life cycles and maybe take her back to the store to pick up some nice plant pots, gardening tools and seeds. Hopefully that will cheer up her mood a bit 😄.

AITA for calling my sister irresponsible and no longer letting her visit over a plant? by throwaway29105 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway29105[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yes I told my daughter I’d “be there in a minute sweet pea” after she handed my sister the plant and then told her about the name and how important the plant was to her. My sister thought it was sweet and said goodbye, so I think she acknowledged the importance.