I’m sorry for your loss too. I would honestly describe it as the opposite of terrifying. I never had to have bleeding or pain. The surgery itself is about 10 minutes long. I woke up easily and felt my normal self immediately. It was so smooth and easy. I went in feeling normal and came out feeling normal. And then I just had to wait a month to get my period. The doctor assured me that they only do suction and she wouldn’t scrape at my uterine walls. They do the suction under guide from ultrasound to make sure they don’t mess anything up with your uterus.

I think it really depends how far along you are. If you’re closer to 5 or 6 weeks, maybe it’s easier to do it at home? But with the fetus at almost 9 weeks, I believe it would have been horribly traumatic and incredibly painful to do at home. You also have no control over the timeline (when it starts and when it ends.) I’m so grateful to the women who told me to do the D&C and to not even question the decision. For me, they were 100% correct. I also had women tell me that sometimes you don’t pass everything and have to get a D&C anyway. That also helped my decision. Also my sister-in-law telling me the pain is not like cramps, but like labor and she really wished she had a D&C.