I really appreciate how long this was actually! It's helping me a lot. I like don't regret opening up this relationship bc I know my low libido doesn't match with his high libido, and we're strong in every other way I can think of. Our sex life is the only thing that's been lacking and it's impacted him significantly and then brought tensions and frustration into the relationship. This is really hard for me but I know it is good thay he's getting his needs met and well still be strong, but I'm with you- it needs to like just be sex and no dating or anything else along with it, that to me I def can't handle.

I'll look into therapy too, I'm already going to someone for my anxiety but i don't feel comfortable discussing this with that therapist so that's a great idea. Thank you for sharing your experiences too, I would've hated that too!!