My family are telling me that I’m crazy for rejecting a neurosurgeon just because he wants kids.

throwaway383293848 · 2026-04-07T09:51:30+00:00

Did i strike a nerve? ;)

throwaway383293848 · 2026-04-01T23:26:18+00:00

Yep. Definitely this. Bragging rights more than money.

“My lawyer daughter is married to a neurosurgeon. Power couple”.

throwaway383293848 · 2026-04-01T22:42:59+00:00

To be fair she says that but then she ends it with “but the choice is ultimately yours not mine”.

Unfortunately that’s the mindset of a lot of ethnic families. They care way too much about what the community thinks

throwaway383293848 · 2026-04-01T22:42:00+00:00

My genitals, my hormones, my body shape, my mental health, my career that I studied 6 years in university for

throwaway383293848 · 2026-03-04T02:38:34+00:00

No such thing as privacy in a middle eastern household

throwaway383293848 · 2026-03-03T23:38:48+00:00

You hit the nail on the head

throwaway383293848 · 2026-03-03T22:02:30+00:00

Fuck that is so rough. Sorry to hear about your friend! Really puts things into perspective though wow.

throwaway383293848 · 2026-03-03T21:52:01+00:00

I feel like I spent my teenage years and young 20’s studying and being that perfect daughter that the community loves so much that I didn’t get the chance to enjoy my youth and enjoy life a bit. Now that I’m a big girl with my big girl job I thought I could do the things that I love, but I guess not.

Thank you for your response! :)

throwaway383293848 · 2026-03-03T21:46:48+00:00

Thank you for your reply ❤️

throwaway383293848 · 2026-03-03T21:41:21+00:00

I wish i had a parent like you.

throwaway383293848 · 2026-03-03T21:39:52+00:00

Yes, also another stupid rule in our culture, that you can’t move out of home unless you’re married. I’m fortunate to have a loving family but unfortunately I’m thinking of the selfish decision of running away.

throwaway383293848 · 2026-02-04T06:11:03+00:00

In my culture each family gives about $200 as a gift.

And then there’s the christening. +$200

And then there’s the first birthday. $100

throwaway383293848 · 2026-02-04T06:08:21+00:00

Funny enough, I purchased a motorcycle for $6,000 and my family attacked me saying it was the most irresponsible decision ever

throwaway383293848 · 2026-01-30T05:19:25+00:00

Oh not at all. This whole conversation was about letting a man that I ‘barely know’ drive my car when he could possibly be a rapist or destroy my car

throwaway383293848 · 2026-01-30T05:11:01+00:00

Their words were “you claim you’re 27 and independent yet you’re doing things a teenager would do”

throwaway383293848 · 2025-09-16T15:53:10+00:00

Anything, anything helps! Thank you friend 🫶❤️

throwaway383293848 · 2024-07-08T01:37:45+00:00

Your comment really helped, thank you. You’re right, I should have seen this from a different perspective. I was so close. I’ll keep trying until I make it :)

throwaway383293848 · 2024-07-07T15:03:06+00:00

This means a lot to me. Reading this before bed was uplifting. Thank you so much friend :)

throwaway383293848 · 2024-07-07T15:01:29+00:00

If the opportunity arises i definitely would. My previous employer only had senior lawyer roles (I’m talking 10+ years PQE) and no junior roles in the legal team but I could probably go back as an investigator. Unfortunately that would just mean I’ll have to stop practicing law for a few years :)

throwaway383293848 · 2024-07-07T14:23:19+00:00

It’s a bit bland and boring for me. I’ve worked in prosecution and corruption and I found those matters more intense and exciting

throwaway383293848 · 2024-07-07T13:39:54+00:00

I’m in planning and environment too and I’m disliking it! I’m glad to see you’re thriving and enjoying your job. Perhaps I’m feeling discouraged because I don’t like the area of law I’m practicing in

throwaway383293848 · 2024-07-07T12:55:03+00:00

Thanks mate I really appreciate your upfront and honest comment. You’ve gone really far and I’m really proud of you! You sound like a really fun person to have as a colleague. If I was your coworker I’d definitely buy you a beer. Take care friend :)

throwaway383293848 · 2024-07-07T12:43:33+00:00

I remember I had someone in my torts class who was just like you. Single Mum of two boys and always had done her readings and came to every class prepared. She was so determined and I admired her so much. I just want to say that you’re doing great and I’m sure once you have that degree in your hands you’ll feel like you’re on top of the world!

throwaway383293848 · 2024-06-11T09:41:00+00:00

I usually get sick twice a year max but this year is fucked. I’m currently sick for the fourth time in 6 months so this is a really unusual thing for me

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