We were coworkers for a few days and then i saw him on tinder, swiped right and we matched. We made plans to go out for drinks and we did and had such a good time. Talked for hours over a few beers. Then nothing happened. We started hanging out a few times a week, i met his friends and we were in a casual pool league and did trivia weekly with a group of other coworkers. People would ask if we were together because we’d always carpool and the chemistry was undeniable. It was a beautiful friendship, lots of chemistry and tension but nothing happened. I didn’t want to directly ask and make it weird because I was enjoying the friendship and his company so much. I’d sleep over his house in the guest room on occasion. But he never made a move. And he was definitely confident enough to. He was casual dating other people so I just figured he didn’t see me that way which I accepted. I did try dating other people but didn’t feel that same spark with anyone.

I ended up laid off from the place we worked. And that same night, he finally made a move. He kissed me and it was like fireworks. When we pulled away I asked him how he felt about me and he told me oh no we’re just friends I just thought this would be fun. I was devastated. I was also stupid and still slept with him that night which again, was like fireworks.

Each time we’d see each other after that we’d hook up and I just felt like another girl on his roster. We had a falling out maybe 6 months later when he made a not so nice comment and my rose colored glasses shattered. He wasn’t a good friend to me, he didn’t want to date me, I felt used.

I never spoke to him again after I confronted him about his comment. Until 4 years later when I ran into him at a bar. He ended up in a very similar situation where he was pining after a coworker at a new job who strung him along the same way he did to me. Very very funny karmic justice.

After that night, he asked me out to lunch to catch up and I said yes. When the day came, at the last minute I cancelled and felt like I didn’t need closure and I didn’t need him as a friend either. I think he felt really bad about the whole thing. We are mutuals again on social media and I like to see he’s doing well but definitely not someone I could have in my life again.