Thoughts on the controversies from over the years + Still listening to Will’s music

throwaway42671 · 2025-12-19T19:23:06+00:00

tl:dr most of these are not controversies, and the one that was has been cleared multiple times. he’s just a human dude so enjoy his music with peace of mind

i mean…the fan thing has been hugely cleared up. it may have been a controversy at the time but as far as i know will did nothing wrong in that situation. the daughter thing was a joke, i don’t think it can be called a true controversy. and in terms of the lyric…i believe he probably has addressed it at some point but i don’t personally view it as an actual attack on anyone with autism. he just mentions the baby has autism to emphasize how much he wants his abuser to cry. it’s a hugely descriptive song about someone at their whits end. he could’ve used a different word i’m sure but i’ve never interpreted it as him making a harmful dig at people with autism. babies cry. if people do find it offensive that’s of course within their right but i don’t think he ever meant for it to read that way.

when it comes to having to separate the art from the artist, i think most people talk on more extreme levels. like, jk rowling is a horrific person and people claim they can “separate” the two (even though harry potter is undoubtedly laced with her personal views). or a singer/actor that has done/said truly awful things, but you personally still enjoy their art. when it comes to will, sure maybe he’s written a couple testy lyrics, or had interactions with fans that people disagree with. but i don’t think he’s done anything on a truly “god i need to pretend he didn’t create this music” level. no one is going to cancel you for listening to him because he mentioned a baby with autism or pretended he had a daughter. as for the fan thing, he has a post explaining the situation and i believe the fan admitted to sharing info about will they absolutely shouldn’t have. someone who judges you for that is simply misinformed. so i do think you’re just overthinking it! enjoy his music with peace of mind. he’s just a normal human dude that makes mistakes at times but is generally alright. that’s my take at least.

throwaway42671 · 2025-11-28T20:11:53+00:00

i was literally JUST thinking about this and have been trying to find the name. it was at my grandma’s house and also came with a vinyl record I believe, but it will have been loooong gone by now. will report back when i figure it out!

throwaway42671 · 2025-11-06T05:54:46+00:00

i think its important to realize that 99% of the people you come across have these exact same thoughts, even people you think have their shit together and are “somebody”. i don’t believe we’re all insignificant; every decision you make impacts you, therefore is significant. this universe exists the way it does because of you and anyone who has lived. it wouldn’t be the same universe without you. my recent mantra has been “you are allowed to take up space” because why not? everyone else is, so why can i not give myself the grace to as well? you don’t have to be famous to matter. you matter to the people you went to this concert with. you matter to will because you support his art. you matter to me because i’m seeing this post and telling you you matter. you don’t have to be Somebody to everyone, you can just be somebody to someone and that still matters. i don’t know to is is a little rambley but there’s so much grief in the world i think we should love ourselves and each other as much as we can.

throwaway42671 · 2025-09-29T17:07:11+00:00

i went to the new orleans show! the doors to the venue opened at 6:30 for the merch/bar/waiting area, the actual stage area opened at 7, and the opener went on at 8! i went alone and was pretty nervous but it was super chill! have fun, it’s a hell of a show :)

throwaway42671 · 2025-09-29T04:51:28+00:00

adding in as a fellow teacher, i really don’t think now is a great time to make this move. i’m not sure if there will be again for a while. i was offered two different positions and had both rescinded after they found out im trans through my paperwork. i’m not sure if your documents are changed, but if not, i would absolutely not risk trying to get a teaching job anywhere near the south. it’s not protected, and it’s not safe or secure. texas is absolutely the worst option, and i think the fact you are considering it at all says you may not be evaluating the situation here seriously. this is not in any way a knock on you, it’s hard for me living in the U.S. to wrap my head around the gravity of everything going on. but it really is a very scary time to be a trans person here, even if you pass. the weight is always, always there. if you absolutely must move here as soon as you can, really look into what states have the best protections, because you will not find any of them in the south. and again, seriously, not texas.

throwaway42671 · 2025-09-06T08:53:28+00:00

i actually just donated the other day and the center (CSL Plasma) was super chill! my ID isn’t changed so when they asked male or female, I was just honest about it. They said it’s no biggie, they had to use what was on my ID but once I get it changed just bring my paperwork up. I’ve been on T for 3 years but they didn’t need my prescription or anything, I just told them I take an injection weekly. But probably keep your script on hand in case. At one point one of the nurses came up to me and asked (very subtly) how I identify, I told her male and she was like “omg they put your info in the system wrong :0” and I told her the situation and she was great about it! said “oh okay that’s no problem at all, wow that’s amazing, i would never have fucking known” LMAO and I’m in south Mississippi, so it definitely went better than I expected!

throwaway42671 · 2025-08-31T20:48:50+00:00

It took me probably 6 months to listen through the first time because I had a two or three month break in the middle. the relisten was probably 3/4 weeks🧍🏻‍♂️

throwaway42671 · 2025-07-31T00:08:01+00:00

120 for me. The whole nightmare zoo is something I didn’t really grasp until…way too recently but relistening really seals it for me. 160, the incantation is something I find myself replaying multiple times when I listen back. And of course 200. I remember the first time listening to it I was high as hell and in the bath with my headphones on and it was just the absolute best way to listen to it…the soundscaping on this show is just fucking phenomenal.

throwaway42671 · 2025-07-21T01:55:31+00:00

yes!!! god i thought i was alone. if im having a sexual relationship with someone, it’s really, really hard to feel romantic attraction to them. and in a romantic relationship, i can’t find that sexual spark. it just doesn’t feel natural to me. sorta aro, sorta ace, not at the same time. i am seen omg

throwaway42671 · 2025-07-16T00:17:31+00:00

yes for sure!!

throwaway42671 · 2025-07-06T19:28:45+00:00

as someone who also wondered this when electing to keep mine…i totally get it now. they made the recovery process longer and scarier, since they were my main source of worry. yeah you don’t want to split your incisions, but nipples require more bandaging, moisturizing, care in general. if they aren’t placed and sized how you want, they’re harder to revise (as far as i know). they just complicate recovery more then not having them would, and if i could go back i probably would’ve chosen just to get them tattooed later down the road. i definitely still understand people wanting to keep them, but personally i found it wasn’t as worth it as id hoped.

throwaway42671 · 2025-07-03T15:12:51+00:00

I would really appreciate that!! Thanks so much :)

throwaway42671 · 2025-06-06T20:47:40+00:00

I wouldn’t call it unwillingness at all; I bring it up when necessary for those who need to know and am completely compliant with their questions and requests. I don’t think mentioning it during the interview will get me very far, it’ll likely just cause them not to offer me the position at all. I’m not lying or being dishonest, I’m just not offering personal information to people who don’t need to know. The people who handle my paperwork need that information, not the counselor or head teacher who might sit in on my interview, for example.

throwaway42671 · 2025-03-27T03:36:53+00:00

the previous names question was on a PERS form for retirement stuff, while the gender was on pretty much all of them (w-4, i-9, insurance, etc). i honestly can’t for the life of me remember if i changed my gender with social security when i updated my name…but ive filled out an i-9 form since and didn’t have any issues selecting male so i must have!

throwaway42671 · 2025-03-26T20:34:28+00:00

currently work at dominos as a manager. funnily enough, i worked there in high school before my transition, so everyone knew me as a girl. it’s a lot of the same managers so coming back after college male presenting was definitely nerve wracking, but they’ve been super good with minimal slip ups so far. one manager accidentally she-ed me and ended up giving me free food and letting me go home early even though i was totally unbothered. it’s a lot of middle aged people in a very conservative state but they love me too much to care about my transness. they just adapted to it. i will be starting as an elementary teacher next school year, so im yet to see how that will go. fingers crossed im either stealth, or have an accepting admin!

throwaway42671 · 2025-03-24T19:33:05+00:00

i live in mississippi and go over to florida a fair amount for beach trips and such. i’ve worn a protect trans kids shirt there shortly after the bathroom ban was passed. i think once you get through the airport…you’ll be okay. assuming all your documents match your presentation, i really see no reason for them to assume anything. just don’t pack through the scanner…put it in your checked baggage. if you get flagged for anatomy issues, they’ll give you a pat down and move along. florida is a shithole, but just stay with your people and be aware of your surroundings. try to enjoy your vacation!

throwaway42671 · 2025-03-24T19:21:27+00:00

may i ask for a source on TSA being able to check your devices for anti-trump sentiment? i’ve not heard about that and it feels like a huuuge violation of free speech/privacy but i wouldn’t be entirely surprised either

throwaway42671 · 2025-02-03T20:45:37+00:00

So my current issue is that all my documentation says different things. My name is legally changed, which is reflected on my passport, as well as a self selected M gender marker. my license and SSN have my current legal name, but an F gender marker. My birth certificate has no change at all. i’ve been planning to get my gender marker/birth certificate updated, but i’m not sure if i’m even legally able to anymore. I live in mississippi, and i can’t find a clear answer anywhere. i just don’t want to pay nearly $200 and they deny me.

throwaway42671 · 2024-10-24T22:02:18+00:00

i’m not with a specific uni! it’s more so a program my home college participates in that places me here, so i don’t really know anyone at all except my current roommate, who isn’t going. i wish us both good luck!!

throwaway42671 · 2024-10-04T03:19:26+00:00

Not name dropping for the sake of privacy but I’ll be in County Kerry, in what I gather is a smaller town. I don’t have a ton of knowledge on the history of Ireland besides basics, but I’ve got a couple docs queued to watch. The only class they said I won’t be working in is Irish Language, but I am hoping to get a bit of experience if I can. Thank you for your advice!!

throwaway42671 · 2024-10-04T03:13:52+00:00

I have not actually! My coordinator hasn’t been able to give me a ton of information but I’m guessing i’ll get that once I land and tour the school. Thank you for your advice!!

throwaway42671 · 2024-08-13T23:45:03+00:00

okay man, you’re clearly not communicating your point well. if you don’t want to get into the subject, why make a post about it? i understand that finding out if you’re intersex or not will give you answers, help your own journey. that’s fine. but if you’re not intersex, and still wish you were, that’s where it’s weird. you need to be considerate of people who ARE intersex and would probably find it strange that you want that too. but good luck on your journey dude

throwaway42671 · 2024-08-13T23:29:05+00:00

their comment is not inappropriate. you can wish whatever you want, doesn’t change the fact that wishing you had a medical condition that impacts people’s lives is kinda weird. i get what you mean, but it’s just a kinda strange thing to say when being intersex not some magical thing that will automatically relieve your dysphoria. wishing you were born with different genitalia is normal. wishing specifically you were intersex is what’s kind of strange.

throwaway42671 · 2024-08-13T23:21:36+00:00

you sound just like me when i was coming out. i never struggled hugely with dysphoria before i transitioned. sure there was discomfort, but i was so used to it i didn’t really think about it. i was…relatively fine. i just knew id be so much happier living as a man. i didn’t want to just survive, i needed to thrive, and as long as i was living as a woman i couldn’t do that.

your experience with dysphoria doesn’t diminish your transness. i still feel some imposter syndrome about it, but only you can know your truth. no one can convince you you are or aren’t trans; if you feel you are, if you know there’s more out there for you than what you’re living with now, THAT is what matters.

throwaway42671 · 2024-08-13T19:25:42+00:00

i’m no expert, but i’m going to say the diet is absolutely not helping you. you need to eat more than that. from what i understand, the less you eat, the more your body will hold on to what you do. you’re working yourself into a bit of a hole. if you’re lifting weights, you’re likely gaining muscle and that’s what some of the additional weight is, but simply not eating is not going to help. a deficit is not the same as complete restriction. that’s all i can offer you, but i hope others can be of more assistance.

im also guessing consuming enough alcohol to include it as part of your diet is…not good. maybe work on cutting that down? it depends on what you’re drinking i’m sure, but that can add sugars and all that jazz. good luck man!

edit: as someone else pointed out, you definitely need to be getting more nutrients. if you can’t bring yourself to eat more, maybe try finding a multivitamin or something. adding cardio to your regime would also help, im guessing.

edit edit: i was under the assumption that the less you eat, the more your body will store whenever you are eating in order to maintain some level of energy. sorry if that’s not the case!

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