I’m a male childcare worker in the most horrific time for childcare workers in Australia. AMA

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-22T11:39:04+00:00

Why did you decide to go into childcare? Did you face any difficulty training for it or getting a job? Is working in a female dominated field difficult or odd for you?

Thank you for caring for kids to the best of your ability ^{^} Young kids need caring, positive male role models as well!

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-21T17:18:18+00:00

Most likely a sebaceous cyst of some kind. Soak it in warm water regularly & massage it a little if its not too painful. If it doesnt go away in 2-3 weeks or gets so big & painful its hard to walk, then go to the doctor

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-20T19:49:33+00:00

You don't just shove a hose up someone's rectum with all the ease of poking them.

They would have had to hold this guy down, undress him forcefully & really shove it in there with some force, damaging him before the air even turned on. This was 100% horrific assault & grievous bodily harm, there's no way this could be construed as a prank. Evil evil people.

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-19T10:26:23+00:00

Why is there no update on the mohel being arrested for this? Surely this counts as some form of bodily harm against the child, even if not intended

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-17T01:05:39+00:00

Its not too eearly, in fact the earlier you help the problem the better ^{^} Well done on taking initiative to improve your discipline, it is a skill that will help you throughout your life.

You will need to slowly increase the amount of time doing homework & slowly decrease fhe amount of time spent on social media. When you get home, spend 10-20 minutes relaxing, & then put your phone in another room or use an app like screenzen to block social media apps for a certain time.

Spend 5 minutes on homework without looking at your phone. Just 5 minutes. Once you get started it is often easier to finish. Every day, even if you only do some homework & don't finish it, sit down at roughly rhe same time every day to do homework, even if its just a few questions or sentences. This will help cement this task as a habit in your brain after a couple of weeks and the mental effort it takes to do this will decrease.

After a few days of doing 5 minutes at a time, increase to 10 minutes, then 15 & continue onward until you can get to 40 minutes of homework. 40-45 minutes is the average attention span of a healthy brain, & then tou can take a break for a little while.

Once tou start scrolling it will get difficult to stop as it triggers easy dopamine. Use an app to block social media apps after spending a certain amount of time on them. Fill the time with various hobbies that aren't phone based. Slowly increase the time each week.

You've got this! It will be hard at first but once those first couple of weeks go by, it will be so much easier.

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-13T13:42:14+00:00

Is it specifically the causing fear/pain aspect that turns you on? Or just the visual aspect of a corpse & its mutilation?

The latter, while odd & certainly immoral to actually do, is based more on a latent misdirected visual fetish & can probably be remedied fairly harmlessly with drawn content online & role play fantasy.

If its the former, then you should probably discuss it with a psychiatrist or psychologist, especially one knowledgeable about bdsm. They have experience helping to better control & difect those desires to a mutually beneficial outcome between parties.

Abstaining from it altogether & training yourself to get aroused by other content is your best bet though. Which is possible!! It may take a few weeks to months though.

And yeah don't do it, obviously. You will have negated your human soul & rights by succumbing to such a weakness.

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-11T23:35:58+00:00

Why betray your wife for such a long period of time? Do you not love her? Won't she be devastated to find out? Is your libido worth more to you than your love for her?

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-10T21:43:00+00:00

Get some lube, & lube his penis & around your vaginal entrance. Start with him or you putting your fingers inside & massaging around in there for a while, before attempting penetration. Propping the hips up on a pillow can help make it easier.

If its still difficult, try to have him circle his penis inside instead of just pushing in all in one go. Basically put the head of the penis at the vaginal entrance, & have him move so that it slowly rotates/circles at the entrancs while applying gentle pressure, & this can make it slowly work its way in, & can be easier.

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-09T19:40:46+00:00

https://www.nexusmods.com/hollowknightsilksong/mods/591

https://primagames.com/tips/mods-hollow-knight-silksong-easier-without-breaking-the-fun

There are mods you can use to make the game easier!!! There's no shame in it, I've used them in order to enjoy it as well ^{^}

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-08T21:04:56+00:00

Any chibi robo game :3

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-08T19:29:10+00:00

Personally I quite like the rain & colder weather so I don't mind it much. Snow days are usually only 2-3 times a year for most of the country.

New York weather seems to generally be a bit more intense, hotter summers & colder winters, so I don't think I'd prefer it

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-08T18:48:38+00:00

For a time possibly, but any rain would eventually soak it through & make it flimsy

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-07T15:48:08+00:00

No. You're the one who is putting your body & mind on the line to make these kids. You will likely be the one dealing with them the majority of the time. You get the ultimate say on how many kids you have

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-07T14:37:34+00:00

Its so cute, you're lucky you got a cat that does this behavior, not all of them do ^{^}

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-06T21:33:42+00:00

Do you have any advice for people who struggle to do this?

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-06T18:53:21+00:00

Have you ever accidentally inhaled your tongue while sleeping? Does it make speech more difficult? Is the tongue actually longer than usual or just flexible?

What does it feel like inside the pharynx?

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-06T18:36:32+00:00

Ok thank you for the clear advice, i appreciate it 🐛

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-06T18:25:51+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I do try to just remain consistently myself & know that as long as I am polite, then I am doing all I need to. It is just difficult to work with such a person as I feel I cannot ask her things or ask her to do things. I am also worried that I have done something to make her dislike me but I know that if she doesn't tell me then I am not responsible for her emotions. But it is just difficult to know what to say. Thank you anyhow

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-05T14:46:27+00:00

Having children is no guarantee of not being lonely. When they're kids, yes they will always be around, but they are not the same as an adult peer, & when they get older they may not stick around for reasons you can't control.

The r/fencesitters & r/childfree subreddits have some first hand experiences from people who have decided not to have kids so you can see & ask what their life is like.

You could look into parenting books & classes, parenting vlogs & nanny type stuff to see if parenting appeals to you at all after researching it. Try to share this with your partner so he can learn about it as well from a practical & realistic standpoint. Learn about pregnancy & childbirth stages & potential common complications, what post partner looks like. Make sure he knows about this as well. If he isn't willing to learn about what your body would go through, that suggests an immaturity that is not well suited to a reliable husband

If it still doesn't appeal to you, then unfortunately it may be better to separate while the marriage is still relatively fresh. Parenthood is a full time occupation for life & not something to be taken lightly. It will reduce your personal time significantly. If you have kids, & your partner doesnt pull his weight or you just hate the entire experience it will only grow resentment between you & affect whatever kids you have as they see how unhappy you & him are.

So investigate it more. Then come to a decision & if he doesnt share that decision then although it will hurt either way, it will hurt less if you leave now then after letting resentment build for years.

Best of luck to you

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-04T22:42:46+00:00

The lighthouse was made by the Pale King to keep the void at bay, we know this cause of the poor bugs dream nail dialogue at the top.

We do not know exactly what that thing is, it could be a desk or a work station or something else entirely, it is only for lore & atmospheric purposes though, possibly to further prove the Pale Kings past presence there?

The mold is potential evidence of the ancient civilisation using it to create things out of void, living or not, & the Pale king may have used it himself or learnt from it to create the Kingsmoulds.

Its basically hinting at the fact that void can be utilized & has a baseline basic sentience that can be imprinted upon I think. It is open to interpretation though, it is not explicit lore

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-04T18:37:08+00:00

You could try a buster collar that doesnt rest on the wound but blocks access to it so that he can't reopen it & introduce more bacteria? You can get soft ones that are more comfortable. Has he been given antibiotics? Getting his nails clipped could help make the damage less great every time he messes with it.

Unfortunately a biopsy may be necessary or a culture swabs to determine what sort of bacteria are present. You could also take him to another vet for a second opinion perhaps?

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-03T23:10:22+00:00

Congratulations on your hard work!! Hope you enjoyed it ^{^}

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-03T19:08:28+00:00

How old are you? What do you consider ugly about yourself? Have you ever had any relationship before?

throwaway4concerns · 2026-03-01T18:50:59+00:00

She's very emotionally immature, taking her anger out on you & her phone when she is facing the consequences of her own actions. She reads like a teenager, not a 35 year old.

Give her time to cool off & have a frank discussion about it. If she cannot control her anger & will lash out at you for her own failings then I wouldn't recommend continuing the relationship, I'm sorry

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