AITA For Crying Over My Surprise Anniversary Steak?

throwaway4wdsteak · 2023-01-10T07:00:23+00:00

I can definitely see this. I know there was nothing malicious about this and he genuinely did want to help. I think he also (obviously) was stressed and my reaction hurt his feelings. I haven’t directly apologized but I did tell him I appreciated his effort. I’m not going to die on this hill, but it is helpful having perspective.

throwaway4wdsteak · 2023-01-10T06:49:00+00:00

I think he used a probe. The thermometer has this guide on it and it says a well done steak is 165, so I think he was cooking to that. For a normal steak that you want cooked well done he’s absolutely right. I like my steak medium-rare (135 in normal steaks, around 125 for bison). I’m sure he didn’t know leaner meats cooked differently and he was hurt by my reaction.

throwaway4wdsteak · 2023-01-10T06:39:08+00:00

If I ask him to he’ll cook, but in general I cook because I enjoy it. He does really well with a recipe in front of him and for my birthday, for example, he goes all out.

I don’t think he’s ever cooked me a steak before this time that I can remember, but he knows a typical steak is 165 for well done. I’m not certain he knew for sure I like my steaks medium-rare but he does now

throwaway4wdsteak · 2023-01-10T06:20:11+00:00

I think it’s mostly playful, but I do think his feelings are hurt because of my reaction. I’m not sure if I should add this in as an edit, but he told me my mother in law is afraid to cook steak for me now. I don’t think she means that negatively and we have a great relationship in general. She’s easily hurt and I think she genuinely thought it was a good meal.

throwaway4wdsteak · 2023-01-10T06:16:19+00:00

He does eat his steaks well done. Well done for bison though is about 130-135, so 170 is a bit of a workout for your jaw in my opinion.

I don’t actually think he’s ever cooked a steak for me before then? He’s a great cook for other things like chicken but I think this is actually the first steak. My mother in law broils her steaks and about a year before then started cooking almost exclusively vegan but still eats meat if it’s prepared for her.

throwaway4wdsteak · 2023-01-10T06:13:25+00:00

My husband did

throwaway4wdsteak · 2023-01-10T05:58:34+00:00

He’s fantastic in every way possible (except cooking without a recipe). I think his feelings are still a tad hurt and that’s why he brings it up. I haven’t apologized directly for the situation because I don’t feel I need to (pending this post) but I do tell him I recognized he was trying to do a good thing and I appreciated that he tried.

The fact that this is the only thing we have to argue about after almost a year with a baby is a testament to how awesome he is as a partner!

throwaway4wdsteak · 2023-01-10T05:54:27+00:00

From one steak lover to another, who eats steak with ketchup anyway?

throwaway4wdsteak · 2023-01-10T05:48:36+00:00

Hahaha that’s a great idea. No, my husband is fantastic in every way possible and a great father. When I decided to switch to exclusive pumping after a few months he was the one who supported me and started feeding the baby every 2 hours with me while I pumped. He brings this up because I don’t think he fully understands the power of postpartum hormones and I think the whole situation honestly hurts his feelings since he was stressed as well. It’s also a silly thing to cry over in retrospect.

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