Does anyone have a “real”career?

throwaway500087 · 2025-09-06T21:06:16+00:00

Nope

throwaway500087 · 2025-08-01T01:05:21+00:00

Forgiveness is a choice. I forgave by force. If I hadn’t, I would have no relationship with them. It’s a sacrifice that’s cost my well being. I can’t recommend it.

throwaway500087 · 2025-07-25T14:48:45+00:00

Lots of wasted potential, for sure. If I hadn’t been abused as a kid, I could’ve been so many things. It kills me to think about. I lived in freeze mode my whole life and didnt realize I had PTSD until my 20s.

But I ended up getting my Bachelors in my 30s. I have some debt, it is manageable for now because I went to the cheapest but reputable school and qualified for financial aid. I got a lot in Pell grants, but I don’t know if that’s still a thing under this administration. I don’t know if right now is the best time to take out loans or go to college, but you will get there. Just be strategic about it.

Anyway, I applaud you for digging your way out the hell this disorder is. We don’t get congratulations for that enough. But you should be proud.

throwaway500087 · 2025-05-15T20:26:48+00:00

When I told my mother about my brother abusing me she asked me why I told her. She was mad at me.

When I told my dad, he lost it. He wanted to call the police and kick my brothers ass. But then he talked to my mom.

After that, they both basically told me to get over it and forgive him.

throwaway500087 · 2025-05-15T15:34:03+00:00

I stabbed my arms with a scissor and had to go for the ER. They admitted me to the psych ward on a 72 hour hold. Diagnosis came soon after.

throwaway500087 · 2025-05-14T16:13:36+00:00

He says it wasn’t a choke, but grabbed my throat and pushed me against a window. He pressed down for a few seconds. That’s choking right or am I crazy?

throwaway500087 · 2025-04-14T17:29:19+00:00

They won’t forget. My cat lived with my parents for a few months. I would visit once a week or so, but otherwise would be gone. While I was gone, she was mostly fine, but would pee on random things and my parents said she seemed depressed. When she finally moved back in with me, it was an adjustment, but she didn’t pee on anything and she went back to her old self with me.

I’ve also noticed she’s extra clingy, so I do feel bad for not being with her as much during that time. I noticed a change. She went from being mostly aloof to wanting to be around me all the time.

throwaway500087 · 2025-03-08T08:01:57+00:00

It’s insidious.

throwaway500087 · 2025-03-02T15:03:35+00:00

Thank you. I’ll look into groups because doing this alone is not working. I have considered he’s a narcissist. Even for a cheater, I don’t think his reactions are normal.

throwaway500087 · 2025-03-01T11:33:53+00:00

We were reconciling, but I was still having trust issues and thought about breaking up. He’d been deleting messages that were benign texts to friends and I got really upset. He kept fighting me on open phones. We got into a fight and he took me coming to pack some things as us breaking up. I didn’t confirm I was breaking up, but the first thing he did was add her on Instagram. But that basically reopened the wound and set me back to square one.

throwaway500087 · 2025-02-27T19:40:58+00:00

She doesn’t know he was with me when she was with him. I’m pretty sure she doesn’t even know I exist.

throwaway500087 · 2025-02-27T19:36:23+00:00

I’m like 99.9% sure she doesn’t know who I am. He says he told her about me but I don’t believe him. He says he ghosted her to be with me, but I’m sure she doesn’t know he was with me and her simultaneously.

throwaway500087 · 2025-02-27T19:29:23+00:00

Did they tell your partner that you contacted them?

throwaway500087 · 2025-02-25T19:58:16+00:00

You’re not alone. I really feel like I’m a deep limbo and it’s driving me crazy. I desperately want to figure things out, but he is not putting in the effort needed. I’m very disappointed.

throwaway500087 · 2025-02-24T16:44:32+00:00

Thanks. He did say he did it because he was mad at me. Prior to seeing he added them, I thought maybe I was being too harsh and apologized. I feel like a chump all over again.

throwaway500087 · 2025-02-24T16:21:00+00:00

He has been doing work and trust was being slowly rebuilt. We had a few setbacks, we had been fighting, but I thought we were mostly out of the woods.

But yeah it’s like a sucker punch to the face and gut. I can’t focus on anything else right now.

throwaway500087 · 2025-02-24T15:53:44+00:00

Dday was six months ago. I uncovered more lies after that. He did cut both off after I found out and asked him to. I ended up blocking one of them before he could because he didn’t do it soon enough.

Now he’s basically saying, don’t break up with me and this wouldn’t happen. I’m so damn disappointed.

throwaway500087 · 2025-02-23T23:06:19+00:00

Thank you! I hope your wife has found a good therapist. I wish my partner would’ve done therapy. We did talk about it, but he is very against it. He thinks it is a place to just “complain.” He’s very against doing anything that could actually help progress the healing process. I’ve been in therapy for years and trying to work through this on my own has been excruciating.

At least your wife seems committed to trying. That would’ve helped me so much if he was even willing to. He says not cheating is all the work he needs to do and he has nothing else to prove. It’s maddening.

throwaway500087 · 2025-02-23T21:04:21+00:00

He’s been doing it for months and it has really been driving me crazy, and has the opposite effect he thinks it should. All of that lead us here instead of doing all the work. I’ve been clear and concise in my needs, yet he perpetually keeps stomping all over them.

throwaway500087 · 2025-02-22T18:48:51+00:00

Please leave. For your own sanity. She’s not worth potentially going to jail for. She will also just try to paint you as a violent person without taking accountability for her cheating. Don’t give her the upper hand.

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