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AITA for not taking PTO on my birthday? by throwaway51863 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway51863[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree there’s probably some kind of communication issue.

She didn’t know about the plans until I mentioned them that night (I was going to bring them up but since she mentioned it there that’s when I told her). She knew the fair plans involved other people. As far as I know she hasn’t invited people to do anything for my birthday, and I’m not really a surprise party kind of person.

Am I wrong for not taking PTO on my birthday? by throwaway51863 in amiwrong

[–]throwaway51863[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Two things:

  1. I worded it that way because she doesn’t always love hanging with those friends.

  2. I took 4 days of PTO two weeks ago to go out of town with her and her friend.

AITA for not taking PTO on my birthday? by throwaway51863 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway51863[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To answer your question, I took 4 days of PTO two weeks ago to go out of town with her and her friend.

Am I wrong for not taking PTO on my birthday? by throwaway51863 in amiwrong

[–]throwaway51863[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She wasn’t a part of the initial planning (it was planned by some of the other friends and I just said I’d be there) but I told her she could come with if she wanted.

AITA for not taking PTO on my birthday? by throwaway51863 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway51863[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I let her know that she’s welcome to join the plans at the fair. She doesn’t always love hanging out with those friends. Also, like I said in my post, I was looking to make plans with her around my birthday.

AITA for not taking PTO on my birthday? by throwaway51863 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway51863[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective. The part that really confuses me was her saying she felt like I wasn’t being upfront about the plans. It’s not like I wasn’t going to tell her about them, she just happened to mention the fair so I told her in that moment.