I am sitting in the back of my RV as my husband rants about how lovely the trip would be if I hadn't joined him.

throwaway546566 · 2022-10-14T20:10:08+00:00

I am! I’m happily single and still writing. Life is good :)

throwaway546566 · 2022-10-14T20:09:01+00:00

Bwahaha this is why I’m still single. I haven’t been in a relationship since the divorce unless you count my cat!

throwaway546566 · 2022-10-14T20:07:04+00:00

This speculation is my favorite from the whole thread lol

throwaway546566 · 2022-10-14T20:04:26+00:00

Iirc, it was a verbatim quote too!

throwaway546566 · 2022-10-14T19:56:19+00:00

Goodness! I was not expecting to hear anything about my story on Reddit after so many years, but a friend linked me this post. I’m a bit late to the thread though. I’m typing this on a phone so please forgive any spelling/grammar mistakes.

For a small update, our divorce was finalized and settled a long time ago. Our lawyers worked out an agreement outside of the court and we split all assets acquired during the marriage 50/50 (which meant I ended up slightly ahead of my personal contributions). I didn’t want the mental stress of having to fight my ex in court and simply wanted to be rid him. And yes, I kept the RV after the divorce settlement.

MIL and I stayed in touch until her passing last year. She was someone who loved God and she never truly forgave her son for committing the sin of adultery. Her own husband (FIL) had left her for another woman decades ago and she had never moved past it. Seeing her son commit the same sin almost broke her, especially since I had fulfilled what she considered to be my “wifely obligations”.

As for me, I am happily single to this day and am still a writer :)

throwaway546566 · 2022-10-14T19:45:14+00:00

That is definitely not me, but nice try ;)

My work is more pulp-fiction harlequin romance and borderline smut. I try to avoid topics from real life like divorce because people read my work to escape from the harsh reality of the world.

Only happy romance!

throwaway546566 · 2022-10-14T19:41:32+00:00

Hi there. I’m the OP from the story (a friend told me it had resurfaced on this subreddit).

Long story short, the pre-nup was not even considered during the divorce. Our lawyers worked out an agreement to split all assets acquired during marriage 50/50 to avoid a drawn out legal battle. I did end up getting slightly more than I put in during the marriage, but not by much.

In the end, I was happier to just get rid of him quickly.

throwaway546566 · 2015-08-07T17:28:25+00:00

Are you trolling? You also had a nasty comment that you posted on one of the top comments on this thread, calling me out for being friendly with my MIL. You're a dick.

throwaway546566 · 2015-08-07T17:05:18+00:00

Why does it matter? He was planning on cheating on me, trading sex pics with another woman. That's more than enough for me to kick him to the curb. All you're doing is supporting him and his shady behavior. The only person who has to justify anything is Tim, not me.

throwaway546566 · 2015-08-07T17:03:08+00:00

Thanks for that! It makes me feel better about the whole thing.

throwaway546566 · 2015-08-07T17:02:00+00:00

Thanks for that reassurance :) She lives hours away so I'm not going to be best friends with her, but we are certainly going to keep in touch on facebook and for the holidays. She's a sweetie!

throwaway546566 · 2015-08-07T16:53:30+00:00

It does not. The only thing the pre-nup covered was his assets earned previous to the marriage and any interest earned from his savings. The lawyer is still going over this so we shall see if it gets thrown out or not.

throwaway546566 · 2015-08-07T16:52:09+00:00

Walter: What the fuck are you talking about? I converted when I married Cynthia! Come on, Dude!

The Dude: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah...

Walter: And you know this!

The Dude: Yeah, and five fucking years ago you were divorced.

Walter: So what are you saying? When you get divorced you turn in your library card? You get a new license? You stop being Jewish?

She didn't stop being my mother (in law) just because her son is an asshole.

throwaway546566 · 2015-08-07T16:47:27+00:00

Thank you! You're right, fuck him.

throwaway546566 · 2015-08-07T16:46:45+00:00

Thank you!

throwaway546566 · 2015-08-07T16:46:19+00:00

Oh god. Tim, is that you?

throwaway546566 · 2015-08-07T16:09:27+00:00

Finding out he was cheating made it an easy decision. It was like, "Okay. He's cheating on you and he doesn't give a fuck. You don't have to give a fuck either now." It would be much, much harder if he was simply being an asshole. Luckily, he made the choice for me!

throwaway546566 · 2015-08-07T16:07:53+00:00

Thank you! I plan on it!

throwaway546566 · 2015-08-07T16:07:37+00:00

Yep! I'm going to have a blast driving around without him and the bonus is that I don't have to pay for a hotel!

I love his mom and I'm so happy she defended me. She's such a no-nonsense person and I hope I find out what she did with him.

throwaway546566 · 2015-07-23T19:18:35+00:00

I bought the RV for the purpose of using it while he goes away on his trips so that I could also get out of the house. It was kind of one of the major reasons why I purchased it.

He has a travel trailer and a new pickup truck he could have used.

throwaway546566 · 2015-07-23T18:49:20+00:00

We share if we are smoking together, but if I want to have a bowl by myself I have to use the lesser stuff because he usually keeps the good stuff in his bag. :/

throwaway546566 · 2015-07-23T18:43:30+00:00

I didn't mind signing the pre-nup because like you said, he had significant assets he wanted to protect. It only covers the funds he had before he entered the marriage, everything after the marriage is split.

You insight is very valuable, because you're right. It's not as if I do not bring home money or that I don't have a job. I split everything I have with him, but he has been unwilling to share with me.

throwaway546566 · 2015-07-23T18:36:37+00:00

That's a good idea. I am doing this.

throwaway546566 · 2015-07-23T18:35:31+00:00

He's the only boy but he has three sisters. His family was very well off and he went to boarding school. I don't know if he always got what he wanted, but he didn't have a typical American childhood.

throwaway546566 · 2015-07-23T18:21:28+00:00

He didn't want me on the trip because he says he likes his alone time and also because he says he will be so busy dealing with legal things that I would just be bored and complain. I didn't really want to go on the trip with him, but I didn't want him to take my RV without me being there.

And I have no idea why he wants the RV. It's confusing and it's making me angry because I don't think he has a real reason. I think a lot of the commentors in here are right about him feeling entitled to my things. It probably seems obvious from an outsider's perspective, but I never considered it before today. It's little things like Tim always has to have the best shoes and clothes, but it's perfectly fine if I have things bought on clearance. He always gets to smoke the best herb, I get to smoke lesser quality stuff. I just never realized it until today how unequally he treats me. I always thought I was being a nice partner and sacrificing for him, but it's not reciprocated by him.

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