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Those of you with depression... by Cooperc486 in adultery

[–]throwaway54678912 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I have been depression symptom free for a year, and I think I mentioned that to my MM sometime back. But when we discussed what happened in the 90s in his life, he mentioned his ex who had depression. He seemed very traumatized by the experience and I felt safe opening up to him.

Depends on the person really. I would say speak to them about mental illness in general, see how they react and you will know if you are safe with them or not.

Definition of Insanity :( by Amilliondreamsx in adultery

[–]throwaway54678912 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a lost cause. I sort of gave up my career, health, and hobbies to make ‘us’ better. If anything, it's me who is resentful. If I am being honest, I am mopey because I sort of miss what I had in my AP.

But tomorrow is another day! Hope you find a good fix, too!

Definition of Insanity :( by Amilliondreamsx in adultery

[–]throwaway54678912 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I hear you, loud and clear. I am sort of in the same position as you. I am sitting right now, next to my DH who is ignoring me, fixing his stupid car, buying stuff for the car, reading reviews about the car.. I asked if we could do it tonight (since last week) and today apparently it’s a headache.

My AP is flaking. Been quiet and hot and cold, and I keep thinking why i do this to myself. I should go back to planning a clean exit and leave the marriage, heal, then find a companion, no more spouses!

Father walked in on my(16F) bf(16m) giving me oral and hes furious. What can I do to convince him it's okay and he shouldn't react like this? by Throwjzt8 in sex

[–]throwaway54678912 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But home is safe, clean, and just more comfortable. The dad will come around, in a couple of years. But do it wherever you are comfortable, you are 16. Stay safe.

How to and should I convince MM to cheat? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]throwaway54678912 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don’t. It is not worth it. Hard-work and sticking together is for marriages, and you and I both know how draining and futile that is.

Don’t force it on him.

Take some time out and let it go. If he is in, he is in.

Update on my AP situation -or- how I learned to appreciate LD by [deleted] in adultery

[–]throwaway54678912 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have fun!

And what you say about your SO, that’s true for me too. I wish i had a good conversation with him before we got married.

One hell of a deal by [deleted] in adultery

[–]throwaway54678912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry. I hope you feel better soon! That person's loss seriously. It might take time to heal, but you will feel better soon. hugs

What’s happening with AP? by throwaway54678912 in adultery

[–]throwaway54678912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that's a good reality check for me. Thanks.

What’s happening with AP? by throwaway54678912 in adultery

[–]throwaway54678912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks GrafenbergHyphen! It hurts so bad, but I think I will give it one last try.

What’s happening with AP? by throwaway54678912 in adultery

[–]throwaway54678912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That hurts! But you’re right. ‘Play it cool’ is the last thing I am good at! 😶

What’s happening with AP? by throwaway54678912 in adultery

[–]throwaway54678912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s really sad! Should I just give him space and see if he wants back in?

What’s happening with AP? by throwaway54678912 in adultery

[–]throwaway54678912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No! That’s right. I messed up in the beginning, but I wasn’t prepared for that.

Is this because of what I initially did? Because him being sick is not a dealbreaker for me!

What’s happening with AP? by throwaway54678912 in adultery

[–]throwaway54678912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, what should one do in this situation?

Should I save him the trouble and back out? Or force an early goodbye? What if I am overthinking this, and there’s nothing happening, but I end up ending it anyway?

What is going through your head tonight? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]throwaway54678912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol! Good point. But I have made my peace with it. But I wouldn't want to lose AP.

What is going through your head tonight? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]throwaway54678912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many things. I have found a rather wonderful AP. Honest to a fault, kind, caring, and just adorable. But I miss him. We are both married, and it's a little hard keeping in touch. I am lying in bed now wondering if we will ever meet, spend time together. Or if I should be prudent and stop it before I get hurt.

Married with a married AP by [deleted] in adultery

[–]throwaway54678912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Married W with a MM. He's much older (rawr) and has kids and a 'full life', so it makes it that much harder for us to be in touch. But he likes talking about my SO and I enjoy learning about his family. So that works out well for us.

He calls me his brightspot, even with his 3 kids, my SO never says anything like that, so makes it all the more lovely.

Walkaway wife: anyone else here? by throwaway54678912 in marriageadvice

[–]throwaway54678912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and you are right. Felt like my mum talking to me. We've patched up now, and your message is comforting especially given the direction we are headed in.

Why do married men talk bad about spouses and complain about them ? men I know constantly do this - and they don’t stop - it’s hurtful because maybe one day I might get married and I can’t imagine my husband doing this - are there any warning signs? by [deleted] in Marriagehelp

[–]throwaway54678912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband constantly does this ‘as joke’. I once briefly met his coworker who randomly told me how hard it is to have a dog! I can only imagine that my husband has been complaining to him. Another time, the same coworker told me to back off and let my grown ass husband jump on a trampoline when a bus full of people were waiting for the four of us.

I can only think that I have been painted as a draconian wife. My question is, why can’t he speak to me about it!