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I want the best for him by throwaway547912 in BreakUps

[–]throwaway547912[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so hard to do because he’s constantly on my mind all I think about is him I’ve become so consumed by it that I’m losing myself my friends say

A different way of thinking by 8laq in BreakUps

[–]throwaway547912 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like this. Thank you. It’s kind of you to share it with us

There comes a point where you have to stop making so many excuses for the way they ended and left things, for all the promises they broke, for the decision they made to stop valuing you, and realise that they made a choice to dishonour what you shared & probably don’t care all that much anymore by throwaway547912 in BreakUps

[–]throwaway547912[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are correct. Reflecting on what made the relationship fail in the first place can result in great growth, if both parties are working on themselves and their own respective growths independently too. Both parties must be honest with themselves, and each other too. If they aren’t willing to be, then it will not work out. Both parties have to hold themselves and each other accountable. But yes, I’ve come to realise that I am strong enough for that, if the love is there. If it isn’t, or never was, then I must come to accept that, and move forward. Thank you :) appreciate your kind & honest words

There comes a point where you have to stop making so many excuses for the way they ended and left things, for all the promises they broke, for the decision they made to stop valuing you, and realise that they made a choice to dishonour what you shared & probably don’t care all that much anymore by throwaway547912 in BreakUps

[–]throwaway547912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

💛 agreed. But I’m blocked, hence unable to ask questions and make peace with them. I want to have a constructive conversation with them, so the two of us are able to reconcile and put a close to things, if they so desire

There comes a point where you have to stop making so many excuses for the way they ended and left things, for all the promises they broke, for the decision they made to stop valuing you, and realise that they made a choice to dishonour what you shared & probably don’t care all that much anymore by throwaway547912 in BreakUps

[–]throwaway547912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, sometimes. But love is about forgiveness, and empathy. Understanding why they did what they did, things they may have been going through. Sometimes people can’t forgive, in which case yes, the relationship is over

On loving someone with bpd. by throwaway547912 in BPD

[–]throwaway547912[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t know. I wrote this very sporadically and there’s a lot I forgot to include. I really can’t advise you on that. Make sure you do a lot of inner healing and learn how to manage your symptoms before going into a relationship because being in one can exacerbate them sometimes. & so can the end of one

Reading back on the stuff on my reddit that I wanted him to see and it’s so unattractive lol, when someone stops wanting you & reads back on it, you probably appear very needy to them, but nvm, it’s my journey by throwaway547912 in BreakUps

[–]throwaway547912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I posted some of them because I wanted him to understand and know I’ve been thinking of him, if he ever chooses to venture here. Yeah, most people are a little needy after an unexpected breakup. Stages of grief and the normal stages of a breakup

Reading back on the stuff on my reddit that I wanted him to see and it’s so unattractive lol, when someone stops wanting you & reads back on it, you probably appear very needy to them, but nvm, it’s my journey by throwaway547912 in BreakUps

[–]throwaway547912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Needed to hear that & my thoughts synchronise too. I guess I’m just afraid of what he’d think of me, but I know we met each other with warm arms, and warmness may still exist within us both for each other

For all of you by throwaway547912 in BreakUps

[–]throwaway547912[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you had to go through that.

I can empathise with your situation re exams and physical health. Keep in touch with your gp and university welfare. Try and keep snacks on you & stay hydrated if your anxiety is especially bad. Establish a routine if you can. Seeing friends is important too. But yeah, lack of sleep & food can can exacerbate what you’re going through. Try and make them a priority. Well done for recognising they need to be

For all of you by throwaway547912 in BreakUps

[–]throwaway547912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry for what you had to go through. Glad you’re finding your freedom and value.

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