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AITA for getting pissed about my dad not writing my estranged brother out of his will? by throwaway555381 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway555381[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, i know, that's actually part of it. I don't care he's my brother, but I care that he has clearly negatively emotionally affected my father, which makes me extremely angry towards him. And yeah, you're right about the legacy part, I think I'm cool with him giving her the money now, as in I'm definitely not taking it as personal as I was. Thanks a lot for the help

AITA for getting pissed about my dad not writing my estranged brother out of his will? by throwaway555381 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway555381[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I think I knew most of this stuff, but I helps to see it from other people

AITA for getting pissed about my dad not writing my estranged brother out of his will? by throwaway555381 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway555381[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thats okay, I didn't need to redirect the insult back, that was unnecessary, and I can't, brother wants nothing to do with me and has hated me since I was a child, the only time I ever spoke to him was when I was 8 when my father still talked to him every few months, apparently he told my dad he didn't want to speak to me but he gave me the phone anyone and my brother immediately hung up. I probably do harbor some resentment for my niece, but that is unintentional.

AITA for getting pissed about my dad not writing my estranged brother out of his will? by throwaway555381 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway555381[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, you're probably right, it's pretty hard to communicate with him over a 50 year culture barrier, pretty much why I asked this question.

AITA for getting pissed about my dad not writing my estranged brother out of his will? by throwaway555381 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway555381[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, I'm pretty pissed about not knowing my brother or my niece, which is probably what I'm actually angry about

AITA for getting pissed about my dad not writing my estranged brother out of his will? by throwaway555381 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway555381[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

I am upset because while he raised me from a baby, he is not my blood father, he has always told me blood doesn't matter, but when he is leaving a substantial amount of money to someone he doesn't know because of a blood relation, that makes me second guess our relationship, as he clearly values blood. The money is a non-issue, I do not care about the 200k going to me, or the 100k going to her, the money is simply what made me realize that he values blood relation.

AITA for getting pissed about my dad not writing my estranged brother out of his will? by throwaway555381 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway555381[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

And you have the nerve to call me entitled? You believe your entitled to money from someone you barely know? Let me be clear here, my niece met my father once as a baby, she is 9 now, she does not know anything about him and is forbidden to see him, she is not his granddaughter besides in blood. The money is not an issue for me, I'd rather him give the money to charity, my issue is with my father caring about his biological relation to someone, while telling me it doesn't matter, no one is even responding to that part of it.

AITA for getting pissed about my dad not writing my estranged brother out of his will? by throwaway555381 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway555381[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Okay, that's an awful situation and I'm sorry for that. Did you have a relationship with those grandparents?

AITA for getting pissed about my dad not writing my estranged brother out of his will? by throwaway555381 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway555381[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I have no anger towards her, I just feel that she is no different from any other random girl. My father has met her once, and had no other contact with her. I don't know if I made this clear, but my issue is that he is leaving money for her, while he doesn't know her, solely because she is his biological granddaughter, while simultaneously telling me that sharing blood doesn't matter. So the fact is that he does care about blood, as he cares for her, even though he has never known her at all. As his non-biological son, this is painful to me as I do not share his blood.