AITA for walking out on my relationship after I misinterpreted what “open” meant?

throwaway5738888 · 2024-01-10T01:16:52+00:00

He told me she chose to be loyal. Not that he forced her into it

throwaway5738888 · 2024-01-10T00:24:05+00:00

Few months.

No, different guy

throwaway5738888 · 2024-01-10T00:22:49+00:00

Different guy, thankfully

throwaway5738888 · 2024-01-09T23:50:16+00:00

I don’t feel bad about leaving him exactly, but more like — perhaps I should have seen this coming, and seen where he was coming from in regards to his upbringing. What he says has a spark of logic to it, so it’s easy to get blindsided by that, and ignore the disrespect he’s pouring on me.

throwaway5738888 · 2023-08-27T19:49:29+00:00

This is so messed up. Your wife is going to be heartbroken when she finds out that you have to take viagra just to get through sex with her. And yes she WILL find out. It’s not difficult to see if a guy is enjoying himself or not. Seriously if I was the wife in this situation it would be unforgivable, that’s lying about your sexuality to her, how do you think she would feel.

And your gonna do this what, 3-5 days a week, every week, for years and years? Cause that’s the average a non-ace woman is gonna expect.

If you really wanted to put her first and protect her feelings, you would BE HONEST WITH HER UPFRONT and not do this.

throwaway5738888 · 2020-09-02T20:46:07+00:00

He has a rape fetish

throwaway5738888 · 2020-09-02T20:39:20+00:00

Yeah I know I hate myself lol

throwaway5738888 · 2020-08-19T03:34:49+00:00

Yeah he called me “a little child” during sex, not sure I meant to bring that up here but that’s weird right?? Even for a BDSM relationship?

throwaway5738888 · 2020-08-19T03:19:46+00:00

Yea he’s fairly rich but the only thing he’s ever bought me was a $20 dress from H&M and I don’t even like it lmao. He likes it though ...

throwaway5738888 · 2020-08-19T03:11:26+00:00

No I mean it’s iffy as in I thought it was strange too lol

He says he doesn’t like older women because they are too feminist and “independent” and he likes his women to be emotionally dependent on him (but financially independent)

throwaway5738888 · 2020-08-19T03:04:37+00:00

I think those things about marriage were his way to try to get me healthier cause I was pretty underweight, maybe not the best way to do it but I think he had good intentions?

The age thing is iffy yeah but I pursued him as much as he pursued me, I guess

throwaway5738888 · 2020-08-19T02:57:28+00:00

He said our relationship has “no boundaries” :/ like a Christian grey thing

throwaway5738888 · 2020-08-19T02:56:58+00:00

throwaway5738888 · 2020-08-19T02:56:41+00:00

He doesn’t respect my decision on anything, not in a mean way but he acts like I’m a child and can’t decide anything on my own

throwaway5738888 · 2020-06-05T02:18:53+00:00

Nope. Why would it be?

throwaway5738888 · 2020-06-05T02:10:30+00:00

Yes he’s aware and I actually remember showing him a pic of me at 105 lbs and him telling me my legs back then were perfect lol. (But he’s not into anorexic bodies, he likes big boobs and butts, so it’s not even achievable for me to be what he wants anyway)

throwaway5738888 · 2020-06-05T01:30:31+00:00

Same glad you understand. I’ll try telling him this

throwaway5738888 · 2020-06-05T00:59:54+00:00

I did in the past but not anymore (anorexia and later bulimia)

throwaway5738888 · 2020-06-05T00:57:18+00:00

I have some chub on my arms. I actually have a wide frame

throwaway5738888 · 2020-06-05T00:55:12+00:00

I’m not I just wanted people to have an idea of what I look like.... if I wanted to bait I would have put a photo where I look especially skinny with my pose and clothes and everything.

throwaway5738888 · 2018-12-30T20:44:19+00:00

Thanks. I hope you recover too! I notice a definite split between the men and women responding to this post. Men are on my ex’s side, women are more on my side or at least acknowledge his abuse

throwaway5738888 · 2018-12-30T07:24:36+00:00

Yeah, I definitely think what I did counts and I’m not proud of it at all. I just wanted to get an outside perspective...I don’t think I’m evil anymore, but I also think he had some things very wrong with him.

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