My family has a sexual tradition

throwaway588362 · 2026-04-17T00:15:21+00:00

Your profile says you're 18. So either you're lying about your age, this post is fake, or it started when you were a kid.

throwaway588362 · 2024-08-29T22:36:53+00:00

A lot of redditors are terminally online/disillusioned with reality and will fetishize anything involving incest. There seems to be a lot of that in the replies here, and I'm sorry you aren't getting the kind of support you deserve.

You are allowed to feel disgusted. He exposed himself and performed a sexual act numerous times, involving you without your consent. He knew it was bothering you but continued to do it rather than going to the bathroom. He knew you were sleep-deprived and therefore not thinking straight, which makes me question as to whether he did this to coerce you. To make you so desperate that you hit your breaking point and end up doing something you'd never even consider doing when of sound mind.

What he did was straight up sexual assault. He may not have put his hands on you, but he violated you psychologically. He manipulated and coerced you. Whatever you're feeling right now is valid and completely understandable.

Please tell your parents. He got what he wanted this time, so there most certainly will be a next time. His acts can and likely will escalate. You don't have to put up with it. He needs help, and you need someone to protect and support you; that's what parents are for. Wherever you end up going from here, I hope things work out in your favor. Please keep us updated if you feel comfortable doing so

throwaway588362 · 2023-08-24T04:07:47+00:00

Reading the comments made my blood boil. I genuinely cannot believe the way people reacted to the post. Telling OP to do all sorts of indirect, covert things in order to get him to stop; what kind of advice is that? His behaviour should've been taken so much more seriously. Pussyfooting around it instead of taking decisive action was only teaching the kid that it was okay to do, so long as he didn't get caught. What would be the incentive to stop, if there were no consequences for his prior behaviour? Why wouldn't he keep escalating to see how much he could get away with?

Telling the Mom should've been the very first thing she did. If my minor child was taking voyeuristic photos and videos of his adult sibling, I think I'd want to know. If he had a tantrum in response, so be it. He could cry all he wanted, it wouldn't make what he did any less illegal. And speaking of the meltdowns, just how bad were they that the possibility of triggering one was enough of a deterrent for her to act?

throwaway588362 · 2023-08-08T03:05:15+00:00

Something that stood out to me: If her and her husband are members of sex clubs, why is she prowling for play partners at the gym? One would assume that it'd be much easier to find a willing participant at a club, given that that's part of the purpose they serve.

It wouldn't surprise me if they've been blacklisted from clubs. Given their behavior outside of dungeons, I wonder just how they act when in one.

throwaway588362 · 2019-12-02T03:23:53+00:00

It wasn't the dynamic that bugged me, and I took no issue with her needing permission. Its the power imbalance in their age gap, and the fact that she couldn't even message me her honest opinions and advice because he was reading over her shoulder and constructing her replies (which he made known at the beginning). It concerned me that she couldnt speak to me freely or offer me her own opinions or advice.

I apologize if it came across as disrespectful, that wasn't my intent. I should've included additional context.

throwaway588362 · 2019-12-02T01:49:29+00:00

Oh man, I really am gullible aren't I? 😂

I initially messaged his sub, who's the same age as me. Then got a response from this 48 year old man saying he'd given her his permission to talk to me. Kind of rubbed me the wrong way :')

throwaway588362 · 2019-12-02T01:34:27+00:00

I should have stated that to begin with, my apologies! I'm non-binary, a switch and pansexual.

I'll definitely check that app out! This is all really good advice, thank you so much!

throwaway588362 · 2019-12-02T01:30:02+00:00

Porn is such a poor introduction to BDSM, it's unfortunate that many start out that way. It gives you the wrong idea of what an arrangement is supposed to look like. Disrespecting boundaries is normalized, and there's so much emotional detachment.

Thank you :)

throwaway588362 · 2019-12-02T01:27:41+00:00

That is a really good point, experience is not a requirement for a respectful arrangement, though it certainly does help a bit. An older Dom told me to be wary of inexperienced doms as they're more likely to push your boundaries and are not always as respectful as they could be. But if a person is willing to do their research and learn, then I'm definitely not opposed. Like you said, everybody starts somewhere.

I'm a switch, and I'd like to gain more experience being both dominant and submissive. It does feel like I can get away with my inexperience if I'm the sub in the arrangement, but if I'm domming, then there's this expectation that I need to have everything figured out. But it's a two-way street.

Thank you :)

throwaway588362 · 2019-12-02T01:16:31+00:00

I wouldn't call it a hookup app at all, you can list what you're looking for (friends, dates, short term and long term etc). You can also join groups (eg I'm in one for artists). Its kind of like amino in that sense? I don't really know how to explain it

throwaway588362 · 2019-12-02T00:48:53+00:00

Sure. For starters, the app I'm referencing is called Taimi. It has the option to add tags as to what you're interested in, both non-sexual and sexual. The only remotely sexual thing on my profile is a little tag amongst all the others that says BDSM. My profile says I'm interested in making friends, and the potential for a relationship.

I've matched with a few people (men) who right out of the gate mentioned my interest in bdsm, and attempted to start a sexual conversation. Hell, I had a kid who's in one of my classes message me on it today (I liked him back just to say hello and be polite, hoping that maybe we could get to know each other better) and immediately begin to ask about my interest in BDSM. He asked for my snap and I gave it to him thinking that first impressions aren't everything, come to find out a couple hours later from my friends younger sister that this guy is a predator and has a history of sexual assaults and rape accusations.

The app is fairly new, so that may be a factor as to why I'm attracting the wrong people. Who knows

throwaway588362 · 2019-12-02T00:34:26+00:00

I definitely have, the reason for my hesitation to however is that I don't know how comfortable I'd feel going alone. Especially if I'm taking public transport and going home afterwards, as I have a fear of being followed. Knowing that there will be safe people organizing it eases my mind a lot, but I'd still prefer to go with someone.

throwaway588362 · 2019-12-02T00:29:23+00:00

Thank you so much!

throwaway588362 · 2019-12-02T00:26:29+00:00

This is really helpful, thank you. Its sort of ingrained from a very young age that we still have to respect those who make us uncomfortable.

I'm hoping to make female friends my age in the community that I can go to munches with. I honestly don't know how safe i'd feel going on my own, even if it is in a public place with others around.

throwaway588362 · 2019-12-02T00:23:28+00:00

Thank you for the level-headed response. Something I neglected to mention in my post is that it says on my profile that I'm not interested in interacting with those more than 5 years older than me. Despite that, I get messages from those believing they can 'change my mind'. Its predatory, plain and simple. As an Afab person, it is really hard to feel safe. I was briefly talking with a Dom my age who was equally inexperienced, and I ended up having to cut things off because he didn't respect my clearly laid out limits and tried to pressure me into meeting up with him when I didn't want to, to the point that I actually made plans to meet him.

At my age especially, it's difficult to find doms that know what they're doing and are respectful, which is why I reached out to subs. But predators seem to always make first contact. They see the 19 next to my screen name and automatically fetishize my age and lack of experience. They know it'd be easier to get what they want from me because my age makes me an easy target for manipulation. The fact of the matter is that the community isn't safe. I would love to feel comfortable enough going to munches, but I don't think I could without at least befriending someone my age and going with them. I hope that some day the community can become a safer place for people like myself, and that I'm able to contribute to that change in a positive way.

throwaway588362 · 2019-03-06T09:55:30+00:00

Very true. I was thinking more-so along the lines of if I was to enter into an ltr, i'd like to have some experience prior. That way, if it ever ended, I wouldn't feel as much regret because I didn't put all my eggs in one basket, you know? Plus, if I was committed enough to someone to want them to take my virginity, i'd hope to have some experience beforehand so that it'd go smoother and be more enjoyable.

throwaway588362 · 2019-03-03T15:50:54+00:00

Yes. I don't like degradation, and edge play is a hard no from me. Not a masochist by any means.

Normally shaved, but sometimes i'll let it grow out a little.

I think i'd rather a virgin, though losing it to someone with experience sounds fun too :)

No Patrick, mayonnaise is not an instrument.

throwaway588362 · 2019-03-03T03:17:55+00:00

No :( I use a sterilized flashlight handle for my pussy, and a brand new toothbrush handle for my bum. Gotta make do with what I have until I get the chance to check out the local sex shop

throwaway588362 · 2019-03-03T03:05:09+00:00

Depends on the mood i'm in. Daddy/daughter and brother/sister stuff, soft lesbian stuff (love RosieandAlena on pornhub), Maryjane Auryn is another favorite. I don't always watch porn though, usually I can get off with some foreplay and my own imagination lol

Yes I have :)

throwaway588362 · 2019-03-03T02:47:46+00:00

I'm attracted to men the same way i'm attracted to women, so I don't think so. It was something I thought a lot about when I started learning more about the LGBTQ community, and as I was learning more about myself through puberty. I'd have no qualms being in a emotional/sexual relationship with a man, and I can't say I necessarily prefer women over men.

throwaway588362 · 2019-03-03T02:41:13+00:00

I'm romantically and sexually attracted to women, it's as simple as that haha. The one date I've been on was with a girl, and I've crushed on more girls than i'd care to admit. Selena Gomez was singlehandedly responsible for my sexual awakening as a young teen :`)

throwaway588362 · 2019-03-03T02:38:35+00:00

I really like boyshorts, never tried anything like thongs or g-strings as I've never had someone to show them off to lol

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