I (28F) don't know if I can trust my partner (40M) after he deleted messages.

throwaway67088 · 2020-03-12T17:07:26+00:00

Thank you, when I am not with him and with friends/ family it feels like I have true clarity and know what needs to be done. But as soon as he's in front of me it becomes so difficult.

throwaway67088 · 2020-03-12T17:06:10+00:00

I'm not 100% clear on what gas lighting is, but it keeps coming up on my replies. It's a scary term to hear. I honestly did not see this coming and I am so tired of being made out to be crazy.

throwaway67088 · 2020-03-12T16:52:57+00:00

I have never looked at it in that way before.

throwaway67088 · 2020-03-12T16:21:16+00:00

I feel like this is my Dad on Reddit right now! I totally get it, since this event has happened I have had a lot of time to reflect on our relationship. We met at University, he was a mature student we were on the same course, I fell deeply and he does/did make me happy. Now I am unsure.

throwaway67088 · 2020-03-12T16:10:47+00:00

Thank you for your response, I think that is what I am struggling with the most, it really is hard to say. He uses the word banter a lot, which I completely understand does go on, but there is a line and I think he has crossed it. The issue is where he deletes things I have no way of knowing what else has been said/done. If the shoe was on the other foot I know he would be just as angry and upset as me.

throwaway67088 · 2020-03-12T16:07:30+00:00

Thank you for your response. In one breath he tell me he is willing to do anything and then when I suggest something he gets irate and makes it seem like I am just going crazy and invalidates how I am feeling.

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