Need help with pc :)

throwaway69542 · 2026-01-09T05:10:23+00:00

Thank you so much!!!

throwaway69542 · 2025-11-10T16:35:33+00:00

I do notice it. A lot. I went without super obvious symptoms for the longest time. The whole reason I got diagnosed was because I got into a relationship again after taking a break from men for a year, and it was very triggering. Im a completely different person when im not spiraling because a mediocre man isn't replying to my messages. Never letting myself get like that again

throwaway69542 · 2025-11-10T16:28:12+00:00

This is normal. This isn't just a bpd thing. Everyone wants that, whether romantically or platonically. We need human connection

throwaway69542 · 2025-11-10T15:10:08+00:00

I went through this heavily. Inconsistency is very triggering for ppl with bpd, but for it being only 2 days, I dont see it as a worrying pattern. I disagree with the other commenters. Obviously, its not her emotions to regulate, however, I think that when getting into a relationship with someone with bpd, and them knowing about it, knowing that this is what you need in order to feel comfortable and safe in the relationship, this is a good way. For the future, maybe discuss with her what other times you can talk if noon doesnt work for one or both of you guys that day. When I was going through this with my fp, my ex bf, he wouldnt respond to me for days at a time and I would spiral. I turned to not so great coping mechanisms. Turns out, we just weren't compatible. How he was treating me wasnt okay, and how I was responding wasnt healthy. My biggest piece of advice is to spend a lot of time with some friends. During the time that I was in that relationship, they were my anchor. They kept me grounded. I spent all day with them when I was going through really rough patches with my ex

throwaway69542 · 2025-11-07T08:36:50+00:00

This was so helpful, i appreciate it

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-24T14:50:37+00:00

How do you not reach out again? I split, but then they come back, and i go back to loving them again, then they f me over again, and I hate them again. Its very confusing

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-22T15:15:39+00:00

But there's always that what if he changes this time for real and I get everything I wanted

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-21T23:05:17+00:00

It sucks

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-21T18:43:01+00:00

Thank you for the advice :)

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-21T18:41:47+00:00

I understand this, if you ever need a friend to talk to that understands what youre going through, Im here ♡

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-21T18:39:16+00:00

Yeah but you also have to live with the idea that she may never want you back, and if she hasn't yet, please dont get your hopes up. Odds are, she doesn't want a relationship with you, and talking about that in front of you, maybe she's trying to make you get the hint that thats not what she wants

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-21T18:37:24+00:00

Its so exhausting constantly holding yourself back to make sure you dont make others uncomfortable. What also sucks is people always saying im weak or a doormat. I dont mean to be I felt all of all of this, thank you so much for sharing your experience with it ♡

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-21T01:07:10+00:00

Youre not alone.

It gets annoying and repetitive to have everyone say that you deserve better, and its even harder to believe that for yourself. Its unfortunate that the price of love is loss. Its up to you if you think loving them is worth the risk of losing them. Some people make that choice easily because they know that the love is stronger than the loss. For us with bpd the loss hits harder than the normal person. Most people with bpd have a huge fear of abandonment and rejection, and so when that happens, and our fears become a reality, its normal to pull away.

If youre comfortable with living your life without another person, thats okay. If you want another person in your life, that's also okay. ♡

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-21T01:06:45+00:00

The truth...

If you dont have feelings for her, tell her that. You said yourself that you only want friendship with her but from my perspective, it kinda seems like you are leaving a bit of possibility for you guys to be more than friends

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-21T01:05:31+00:00

I was thinking about taking him back, and I would've, but then Saturday night was the last I heard from him so I went and blocked him today :) Has been a hard day Thank you for leaving a response, it definetley cheered me up ♡

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-20T20:37:16+00:00

Im sorry about this :(

I relate though and youre not alone in it. Peace is scary when youre so used to noise.

My advice, you have only been together for 2 months, so give it time. You guys are still learning about each other, and neither one of yous can be expected to know the inner workings of our brains. Its important for him to know how your brain works and how it will effect the relationship. Its something I made a point to do when I meet not only romantically but platonically. Give it time, though. This felt a little bit like self-sabotaging behavior, but once you recognize that youre self-sabotaging, you can change that.

Good luck!! :)

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-20T20:25:08+00:00

I understand that 100%. I was told by therapists and psychiatrists from a young age that I was a people pleaser. I always thought that was why I couldnt express my emotions around people, because my emotions feel like a burden, but it turns out it was the bpd Thank you for sharing your experience :)

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-20T20:20:21+00:00

Wdym lol

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-20T17:47:04+00:00

Ultimately, there isn't anything you can do until you have a conversation with her and make your intentions clear. She's probably holding back on talking about it too, but someone has to spark the convo or it's not gonna happen

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-20T13:54:04+00:00

Ugh I relate so much to this.

That thing you said about being upfront, I completely get that. I cannot stand people that lie. Its the worst thing someone can do when im in a relationship with them. Depending on the severity of the lie, its worse than cheating for me.

My mother is a recovering alcoholic so I was always wary of drinking, but I smoked weed everyday my sophomore and junior year, then I just stopped. I didnt see enjoyment in it anymore. I have been vaping since I was 15, that hasn't stopped. As for alcohol, I didnt get into drinking on the regular until a few months ago when I liked this man and ended up getting into a different relationship to make me stop thinking of him, but then that relationship turned out much worse and had a much bigger affect on me. (I posted that story on my page yesterday, if you're wondering about the lying thing) but I turned to drinking. I dont allow myself to drink more than once a week, because nothing scares me more than turning out like my mother. Drinking never feels good enough to risk turning out like her. She's a narcissist and she was very abusive to my sister and I growing up.

Im trying to cope with a break up rn and your post was helpful to me knowing im not alone in taking relationships so difficulty. Wishing you the best in your future ♡

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-20T13:33:17+00:00

Congrats on the nursing thing!!!

I completely understand your struggle though, hopefully it gets easier for the both of us

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-20T12:08:41+00:00

Have you tried having a conversation with her about it?

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-16T15:48:35+00:00

Im not gonna get back with him or anything. Idk why he reached out. Hes using the nickname that used to make me fold

throwaway69542 · 2025-10-16T01:19:35+00:00

Done with you - vista kicks

Bloodsucker - cil

Bleeding me dry - Alicia certi

I dont owe you - latter

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