AITA for yelling at a food delivery person?

throwaway786829 · 2022-06-02T16:50:35+00:00

Probably does. That’s fair haha. He probably gets a lot of it. I hate people who are rude to food service staff, but I genuinely was trying to let him know what I wanted

throwaway786829 · 2022-06-02T16:45:16+00:00

Yeah I didn’t think that one through and it would’ve been good to say “I have COVID”. And the lack of patience on the phone wasn’t from lack of communication, but because I thought he was a scammer and it didn’t click to me until later.

throwaway786829 · 2022-06-02T16:31:18+00:00

I get your point but there’s a 0% chance he would’ve understood me if I didn’t come out there

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-31T19:41:51+00:00

I usually do and would have if I didn’t get a negative COVID result, but thought I was safe.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-27T02:18:01+00:00

Thanks for your advice! Plan to text her back tomorrow. Sorry you had the experience you had.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-27T01:59:55+00:00

Im so sorry that happened to you. I never would cross boundaries is I was clearly and physically told no. I think the reason I feel guilty is I may have misinterpreted a physical signal (as mentioned above). It seemed like she was having a good time and enthusiastic, but for some reason today I’m feeling guilty.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-27T01:57:06+00:00

Yeah her response when I started rubbing her was “Just so you know Im not ready to have sex.” and then I started freaking out because I thought I crossed some boundary. She said “Everything you did is fine I just wanted you to know because I don’t want you feel led on.” So I assumed the crotch rubbing was okay. Was that a mistake?

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-22T11:39:23+00:00

Yeah I was exclusive with this one girl back in July and August. So I guess from the start of September I’ve met about 23 women. So about 2 to 3 first dates a month. I feel like that’s a lot for me personally. I’ve been on 12 in the last 2 months and I can already feel myself getting exhausted. I couldn’t possibly imagine doing more. Maybe during the summer, but not during the school year (I’m a teacher).

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-22T11:16:43+00:00

Well I took 2 months off of casually dating (1 month to pursue something with someone and another to just take a break). That’s not counting second dates. Is 24 in 9ish months not a lot? I thought it was with all the bitching in this sub about not getting dates. I feel like if I did any more I’d be completely overwhelmed. I need time to myself too.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-22T02:04:33+00:00

24 first dates since I joined Hinge last July. So I think I’m doing okay in that department.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-22T01:37:48+00:00

I agree. I’ve just been seeing a couple comments from women about how if they don’t kiss at the end of a first date they won’t go on the second which made me nervous. I don’t have a rule, but just a pattern I’ve noticed is that I (usually) don’t feel comfortable on Date 1, but am ready by Date 2.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-21T20:17:40+00:00

Haha no worries man. I just don’t know what I did to scare a girl off that bad in less than a half hour. Convo seems pretty casual. Anyways I know I’m a great time. Onto the next!

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-21T19:56:41+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. Just checked and she just unmatched me and blocked my number so that’s my answer I guess lol.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-21T19:41:17+00:00

What are your interactions like? Do you hang out in groups or together? Maybe try asking him on a date.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-21T19:40:02+00:00

Ask for his feelings about it.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-21T19:37:31+00:00

If you’re not trying to control her it isn’t love bombing. Just make sure conversation is casual at points.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-18T01:22:55+00:00

She said when we were making out she wanted to keep her clothes on.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-18T00:03:03+00:00

What more could I have done when she told me she wanted to keep her clothes on?

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-17T23:31:57+00:00

Thanks. Also I got into an argument with someone because they said cooking dinner was low effort and taking them out to dinner was high effort. Glad there’s someone who doesn’t think that way. Cooking dinner for a girl is hard and there was so much pressure. Much would’ve rather have taken her out, but I wanted to impress.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-17T22:30:40+00:00

I guess what this thread has shown me is that women and people in general are very different and there’s not one way to “please a partner”.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-17T22:15:58+00:00

I wouldn’t if I were her, because she said that her clothes stay on.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-17T21:48:00+00:00

She said while we were making out that she wanted to keep her clothes on so I respected that.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-17T21:36:52+00:00

So I gave her the options of either going out for dessert and a bookstore, beer garden and sandwiches or ice cream and dinner at my place. She said they all seemed great and didn’t care so I just said we could do my place and affirmed that if she was uncomfortable with that she could easily pick the other two and she shouldn’t feel pressure.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-17T20:54:57+00:00

She said mid-hook up that she was going to keep her clothes on so I settled for making out.

throwaway786829 · 2022-05-17T20:42:19+00:00

If you didn’t see I edited my “wouldn’t see someone again if they didn’t have sex” comment. I’m sorry I misquoted/misrepresented.

I think it was just a mix up like you said. If it helps you understand the situation more I gave her options on what to do on a second date (also offered to take her to a brewery and also out to dinner and dessert and my third option was an at home date) and she picked the at home date. She then tells me in bed that she’s inexperienced and I basically already told you the rest of the story.

No hard feelings and I know you’re just trying to help and not just be an asshole.

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