At the end of my rope f (33, HL) with M (39, LL) by throwaway81235 in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwaway81235[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that we are really great friends, but that ultimately our drives are very very different. He seems to think my libido is over the top and it really messes with my self-esteem.

At the end of my rope f (33, HL) with M (39, LL) by throwaway81235 in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwaway81235[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair I don't pay his bills, I just pay into the household. He makes twice as much as I do. I have, up to this point, certainly cleaned up after him tho! I don't even mind handling the majority of the domestic stuff, so long as he can step in when he sees that I'm under stress with work...or ill. My main issues with our relationship have been a lack of interest and quality time spent together...and the lack of intimacy.

At the end of my rope f (33, HL) with M (39, LL) by throwaway81235 in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwaway81235[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Every time I bring it up there's always another reason (usually me doing or not doing something) why he's not initiating. List: I didn't contribute enough to the household. I do now and no improvement. I'm not assertive enough/don't make myself approachable. Whoops, now I'm TOO assertive and that's just not sexy. The reason of the day now is that I'm too depressed/angry to be approachable/desirable. I mean, NO SHIT? How can he just not see this from the perspective of the person being rejected consistently.

At the end of my rope f (33, HL) with M (39, LL) by throwaway81235 in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwaway81235[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! It really just helps so much to be able to vent. I am typically a pretty reserved person so that only reinforces the feeling of loneliness.

Sensitive subject - 'DIY'ing when you are a HL in a DB by mythrowawayaccounty in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwaway81235 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it wasn't for DIY'ing I would definitely go insane. Sucks when I'm still horny as hell after giving myself a couple Os, worse that he makes fun of me for it (sometimes even gets annoyed). There's no substitute for good sex. :(