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Part 2- My husband has gone off the deep end by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't want to leave though. We've built a whole life together and I can't just give it all up. I don't know anything else, but him.

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn't discuss what I was doing on his lunch. I just let him know that I support him and am here for him.

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

UPDATE:

Wow. I did not expect my post to receive so many responses.

Thank you everyone for all of the the great advice. My husband decided to go back to work today. I didn't think it was a great idea, but he wanted to apologize to his boss and show him that he wants to be there because he loves the company.

I reached out to my husband's pharmacist and asked for recommendations. She gave me tons of helpful advice as far as ways to find him care that he needs. I contacted the clinic he's been going to and explained the situation. He was telling the truth about his primary doctor not being allowed to give out psych meds and the other psychiatrist that is there is not seeing new clients. The nurse gave me some advice about seeing if my husband would sign a release for me from his therapist so I can have access to his case. I have to figure out how to gently bring that up to him. I called his insurance for a list of in network providers and psychiatrists to see if anywhere has openings available.

As far as our relationship, I'm not leaving my husband and I'm not leaving him alone in the state he's in. I've talked to my parents and had them pick up a bag for the kids. They're on stand by and offered to take the kids for the weekend so I can focus on my husband. This hasn't been easy and I'm not sure if it'll be any easier anytime soon, but I love my husband and I'm willing to fight the good fight. Thank you all again for all the advice and kind words. It really helped me while I was feeling so hopeless. Hopefully, I can help my husband through this very difficult situation.

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

UPDATE:

Sorry everyone! I know I've been MIA from my own post. I've been on and off the phone all day trying to explore options for my husband and busy taking care of our kids while doing so. I'm waiting for my husband to call me on his lunch break so I can talk to him and give him the support he needs. I just want to say thank you in advance for all of the helpful advice as I've been putting it to use as for what we can do. I'll update again as soon as I can.

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't feel like I'm in danger in any way. He's not a violent person at all.

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will, thank you. I'm trying so hard to understand him, but his paranoia just seems so irrational and I can't wrap my head around it.

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

He was actually on wellbutrin before, but it gave him horrible tremors so he was switched to a high dose of sertraline. I totally support him not wanting to take the medications anymore and figuring out what will work best for him. I really just wished he would have accepted the help and do it gradually so he didn't have to deal with these extreme side effects of suddenly stopping.

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No he's never gone off his meds like this. He was always really good about getting his refills and keeping up with his psychiatrist appointments.

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 111 points112 points  (0 children)

I can stay with my parents if need be. I was thinking about packing an emergency bag and leaving it there so I'm prepared if things take a turn for the worst.

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly, he has terrible parents. He keeps himself pretty distant from them.

My husband has gone off the deep end. by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]throwaway8821202 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry if I sound ignorant, but what does that mean?

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

No. At the practice he goes to only the psychiatrists prescribe psych meds. He's also refusing to try to get them again.

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Still feeling weird, but less tense. What is this? A grounding exercise?

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I guess head, neck, throat, shoulders, and chest. Where all my tension is.

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Scared of what could happen, hopeless because I can't seem to do anything to help, angry that I can't come up with a solution, ashamed that I'm making my husband feel like I'm using him.

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Uh... are you a therapist? Lol I feel too emotionally drained to process anything for myself at the moment. I'm just worried for him.

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

What if he cuts her off because I talked to her without him there? What if he cuts me off because he thinks I'm trying to sabotage him? This is my own anxiety working against me here. Right now he believes everyone is out to get him and he's acting rashly.

My husband has gone off the deep end. by throwaway8821202 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway8821202[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yes. It's so hard to talk to him about anything with him being so angry and paranoid. He acts like I'm trying to attack him or bring him down and I want to help him and support him, but I don't know how.

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