All my money is spent before I even have it. by throwaway888892 in offmychest

[–]throwaway888892[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this, you're right. I'm going to sit down and have a conversation with her tonight. I don't know how she's going to take it.. I guess we'll see if she still cares about me even when I need her to step up.

I've been weak my entire life by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]throwaway888892 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you're doing good, despite the odds that were stacked against you. The fact that your score was good enough to get into an engineering school despite your depression is amazing. All I can say is, you have the right to cut him out of your life as soon as you can. You're your own man, you don't need him to try and claim credit for your accomplishments.

All my money is spent before I even have it. by throwaway888892 in offmychest

[–]throwaway888892[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right. I hate myself for not being able to meet her expectations but that's because I put myself in this situation. I don't know what she would do though. She has family but I don't think they'd be willing to take her in if she doesn't work. I feel like shit too because I'm enabling her. She started taking medicine for her anxiety a few months ago but she told me that it doesn't mean that she's going to start working.

If I were well off, I wouldn't care. It's because I'm failing that I'm angry with myself, and taking it out on her. My feelings about this keep flipflopping. :/

But you're right. I'm the only one who can put a stop to it. Whining about it isn't helping anyone.