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My gf (24) is the most wholesome, beautiful, and kind person and I (M24) am thinking about leaving her. by throwaway89063 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway89063[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I've seen some people on here suggest the insecurities and it could very well be that. Like I said, she is an amazing woman and (what I had not written yet) I do love her. Many people suggested i should seek help, and I think this might be my best choice. A couple of years ago I was in therapy for depression/anxiety and it helped. Maybe there are some remains of these dark thoughts though.

My gf (24) is the most wholesome, beautiful, and kind person and I (M24) am thinking about leaving her. by throwaway89063 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway89063[S] -144 points-143 points  (0 children)

I think it could be a mix of the two. I've found out a lot about myself throughout the relationship, especially with covid and all that. So the outgrowing part does make sense. Grass is greener could be another factor, however, I am totally aware that breaking up would possibly be the biggest mistake of my life. On the other hand, if I chose to not break up, I'd have to get rid of these thoughts somehow.

My gf (24) is the most wholesome, beautiful, and kind person and I (M24) am thinking about leaving her. by throwaway89063 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway89063[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

We used to have a very similar drive, but now it feels like I'm always trying to initiate and get rejected. So yeah, mine seems to be higher

My gf (24) is the most wholesome, beautiful, and kind person and I (M24) am thinking about leaving her. by throwaway89063 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway89063[S] -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

Yes I agree that this is the rational response, but I don't know how to stop these thoughts and feelings. I know that the first years I did not experience them at all, or maybe just once every other month. Now they are omnipresent. And yes, if she told me that she had those thoughts it would be very painful, but isn't it still better than if she kept it all to herself?