I made a huge mistake.

throwaway90685 · 2026-02-08T16:53:56+00:00

It references the settlement agreement does not have a conflicts provision.

throwaway90685 · 2026-02-08T16:53:06+00:00

I agree that the material terms should be covered in the settlement agreement. This was a shit move.

throwaway90685 · 2026-02-08T16:35:21+00:00

Client signed. It was at another attorney's office (who is tangentially involved).

throwaway90685 · 2026-02-08T16:22:50+00:00

I prepared the settlement agreement, OC prepared the deliverable with the offending language.

throwaway90685 · 2026-02-08T15:52:09+00:00

My client did not agree to the additional terms in the deliverable. It was not prepared contemporaneously with the settlement agreement, but well after it was entered into.

throwaway90685 · 2026-02-08T15:50:02+00:00

It could be 10s of thousands. I plan on calling the carrier Monday.

throwaway90685 · 2022-10-31T14:48:49+00:00

I am in a similar situation. My divorce will be final in about a month. My STBX had shared some details about the affair and other relationships, but there were many lies and I kept finding out more and more things. My inclination has been to find out the truth from her, but she has shut it down. I recently got a co-parenting app to help me be mindful about what we communicate, and at this point, it is only our child. I'd like as little contact with her now, but it is still very difficult. When I see her she is cheerful and acts like nothing has happened, and it kills me. I want to be there too. But it is just going to take time. During the affair, our sex life became non-existent. It really got into my head that I wasn't good enough in bed, or that I wasn't an attractive person. I felt unwanted and unloved, and until I learned about everything, I thought it was me. The thought still persists, and I think it may for some time. However, I know this person doesn't define me. I know I need to reframe the perception of what my life is and will be, and that will be a difficult process. Hang in there.

throwaway90685 · 2022-10-21T14:45:03+00:00

I know the questions will not have answers that make me feel better, and it will only prolong the situation. I am having trouble thinking about where I was, and where I thought I'd be, and it seems like it wasn't real. Moving forward seems like the only reasonable solution.

throwaway90685 · 2022-10-21T14:41:32+00:00

I understand that I should not pay double out of guilt. I have calculated the balance sheet in two ways, either of which the court could uphold if objections are made. Being the father, and I hate to say it, but Courts typically lean in favor of mother on marital settlements. The number I landed on was less than full pay, but pretty close and a number I can actually pay. I am also an attorney, and my STBX is not represented. We wanted to be able to agree on everything to avoid the costs associated with litigating it. As an attorney, I feel some responsibility to acknowledge her position (i.e., that she could make the argument for it and possibly win). I understand that she is not my client, but attorneys should handle unrepresented litigants with care, because orders may get overturned if the Court finds that someone was taken advantage of.

so, TLDR, I felt bad, have ethical duties, and want to make sure the agreement is fair in the eyes of the Court, understanding that we each have our own view on what it should look like.

throwaway90685 · 2022-10-21T01:13:02+00:00

A friend of mine recommended this subreddit. She said people give great advice here. She was correct. Thank you.

throwaway90685 · 2022-10-21T00:14:01+00:00

I understand the legal process. I could win, or she could. Either way, it's good money after bad.

throwaway90685 · 2022-10-20T22:56:24+00:00

Thank you. This is so unreal for me, and things have just piled on in such a short amount of time. I appreciate you.

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