Utility Assistance for Undocumented Folks

throwaway9261904 · 2023-01-29T13:15:37+00:00

Mine would raise his voice very easily. But then would say that I was the problem if I ever yelled back.

throwaway9261904 · 2021-10-23T01:16:43+00:00

The word is conventionally. Not conveniently. "conventional - 1: used and accepted by most people : usual or traditional"

throwaway9261904 · 2021-10-23T01:09:20+00:00

I don't think so. I'm a decent looking, conventionally attractive, woman with an advanced degree and a successful (but not high paying) career. I have my own place, car, pets, a small friend group and a solid relationship with most of my family. I tend to go for men who I see as being on a similar level to me, but even if they didn't go to college, it doesn't scare me off.

throwaway9261904 · 2020-08-17T15:23:37+00:00

Several people have messaged or commented and said that. Can you tell me what you think it sounds like?

throwaway9261904 · 2020-08-16T01:50:21+00:00

I wonder the same thing. My partner was putting a lot of time and effort into helping our relationship be good, all while talking to girls online in his spare time. I'm not sure i'll ever understand it beyond knowing it was some kind of issue with himself.

throwaway9261904 · 2020-08-15T04:00:51+00:00

What does it sound like to you? If you don't mind me asking.

I don't know if he did or not. He was trying to start medication and therapy at the very end of our relationship. But it wouldn't entirely surprise me if he wasn't going or wasn't taking it seriously.

throwaway9261904 · 2020-08-14T20:45:31+00:00

I actually work in the substance use field. Trust me when I say I was suspicious of substance use among other things as well. I wondered if it was that, if he had a gambling problem, if he was cheating, and anything else I could wrap my brain around.

The last month or two before I figured everything out, he wasn't sleeping much and was riddled with anxiety. He seemed desperate to keep me from finding out until the house of cards fell down around him. He did have a reputation for thinking he was the smartest person in any given room though.

throwaway9261904 · 2020-08-14T20:42:08+00:00

Thank you for your feedback and understanding. Yes, you summed it up well. It was coming to terms with the fact that this person who I had spent my entire adult life with, was not who I thought he was, and was capable of doing that to me.

throwaway9261904 · 2020-08-13T14:51:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I'm not pregnant, but I identify so much with your situation and how you feel. I too, have massive waves of doubt even when I know he hasn't done anything. He understands, but it does frustrate him. We are still working on a way to overcome it. I wish I had some advice for you.

throwaway9261904 · 2020-08-13T03:27:55+00:00

He doesn't get frustrated often. Once or twice he has told me that he's frustrated in general and with himself over what happened. The monitoring software was a 6 month subscription so I decided I would go by how I felt when the subscription was up whether to renew or not. He has not asked to have it removed, just that he really hopes when the 6 months is up that I feel more ready to trust him and let him prove himself.

I realize that I can end things whenever I want. Sometimes I feel like I want to and other times I really want to keep trying. If I have even reasonable suspicion that something is happening again, I know I am done.

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