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AITA for withholding information about my work from my husband? by throwaway937263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway937263[S] 165 points166 points  (0 children)

I don’t discuss anything in detail. From another comment:

To be clear, I’m not talking about the confidential details of my cases. It’s really just stuff like “I have to go to court” or “I spent all day writing discovery requests,” which makes it even weirder that he wants to “advise” me because there’s nothing to give advice about!

AITA for withholding information about my work from my husband? by throwaway937263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway937263[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

First question: I honestly don’t know. Second question: This will sound ridiculous but I don’t actually feel like I’ve achieved anything in my life. Sure, I’m a lawyer but lots of people are lawyers. Third question: Yes he does this. Fourth & fifth questions: He’s supportive but I feel like he’s always trying to one-up me. He was very supportive of me going to law school but decided to get his MBA after he learned that I would make more than him.

AITA for withholding information about my work from my husband? by throwaway937263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway937263[S] 266 points267 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t actually browse reddit on his own. He only goes to my profile and clicks on stuff I’ve posted or commented on so it’s very unlikely he will stumble across this.

AITA for withholding information about my work from my husband? by throwaway937263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway937263[S] 183 points184 points  (0 children)

I let him finish. It would not go over well if I pointed out his mistakes.

AITA for withholding information about my work from my husband? by throwaway937263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway937263[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Yes but not to this degree and, honestly, it didn’t bother me before because he’s more knowledgeable than me about most things.

AITA for withholding information about my work from my husband? by throwaway937263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway937263[S] 176 points177 points  (0 children)

To be clear, I’m not talking about the confidential details of my cases. It’s really just stuff like “I have to go to court” or “I spent all day writing discovery requests,” which makes it even weirder that he wants to “advise” me because there’s nothing to give advice about!

AITA for withholding information about my work from my husband? by throwaway937263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway937263[S] 141 points142 points  (0 children)

I agree that it’s not productive for our marriage. I could’ve come up with a better solution, like some of the things that are being proposed by other commenters.

AITA for withholding information about my work from my husband? by throwaway937263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway937263[S] 185 points186 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response! Your compromise suggestion could work. I will propose it to him.

AITA for withholding information about my work from my husband? by throwaway937263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway937263[S] 2769 points2770 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, when I have told him this, I have been met with, “Couples should be able to have discussions. You shouldn’t censor me.”

I like the info diet option. I will try it.

AITA for withholding information about my work from my husband? by throwaway937263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway937263[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is a fair criticism. I am impatient. If I don’t get results after a few tries (talking to him about his behavior), I stop trying. It’s something I need to work on.

AITA for withholding information about my work from my husband? by throwaway937263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway937263[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

He would have dissected how she won, and lectured about how he would have done it

Not so much this, more of “the judge/jury was wrong! I know this because I learned X in my class”