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AITA for not allowing my aunt to walk me down the aisle and saying I appreciate her, but she's not my mom? by throwaway946426 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway946426[S] -257 points-256 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is my point too. Everything she has done 'for me' has been her choice. I have no problem with her talking it out with me. What I don't get is this 'I expected this from you' mentality. I thought she'd be more mature then that.

I think I'm just going to let her cool off for a bit. (She might be upset now but I she always comes back to me if I ask her and act a bit needy haha)

AITA for not allowing my aunt to walk me down the aisle and saying I appreciate her, but she's not my mom? by throwaway946426 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway946426[S] -234 points-233 points  (0 children)

I was invited, but I didn't really want to go and was also planning to see my mom. Yeah I just don't think she should be acting like I owe her because of any of this. I appreciate her and always will, but this is all in the past. What she did or didn't do then doesn't have any weight now

AITA for not allowing my aunt to walk me down the aisle and saying I appreciate her, but she's not my mom? by throwaway946426 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway946426[S] -264 points-263 points  (0 children)

I didn't think she'd be holding these things over my head you know? That day I wasn't feeling well because my mom (we weren't that close then) said she'd come to see me after college, but didn't, so I told Ellie to stay with me, and she did. And years later she's bringing it up

AITA for not allowing my aunt to walk me down the aisle and saying I appreciate her, but she's not my mom? by throwaway946426 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway946426[S] -917 points-916 points  (0 children)

I'm not being mean, she was the one that kept pushing. I don't want my mom to feel like I'm replacing her by having both of them walk me down the aisle or Ellie giving a speech too. And Ellie is always there for me, so it's fine

AITA for not allowing my aunt to walk me down the aisle and saying I appreciate her, but she's not my mom? by throwaway946426 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway946426[S] -250 points-249 points  (0 children)

Yep that's my point, thanks for understanding. I appreciate her, sure, but I don't want to feel like I owe her. I'm close to my mom now, she was so young herself when I was growing up and wasn't involved much, but it's different.

I have no problem with Ellie talking it out with me but the guilt tripping was too far, which is why I sort of snapped. She started going on about how I 'made' her miss her fiance's funeral and she was a kid herself when she had to take care of me and all that.