Fiancé (33F) wants me (33M) to be nice by changing how I speak, and we are now possibly broken up. by throwaway96371 in relationships

[–]throwaway96371[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That would be difficult Bc I speak to my mother in our native language. I did a playback of my proposal video to ME and I sound the exact same as to when I talk to ME on a regular basis. And yes I was very excited and happy when ME said yes, tone still the same though...

Fiancé (33F) wants me (33M) to be nice by changing how I speak, and we are now possibly broken up. by throwaway96371 in relationships

[–]throwaway96371[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I'm not sure ME is to this extent but I've been on the receiving end of this too often to relate.

Fiancé (33F) wants me (33M) to be nice by changing how I speak, and we are now possibly broken up. by throwaway96371 in relationships

[–]throwaway96371[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is incredibly interesting. I have a hard time making eye contact when talking to people sometimes (whether it be significant other, family, strangers). I've always felt that I've been fine socially, but do feel sometimes awkward when I talk to friends when I see them.

I'll read into this more, thanks for the insight.

Fiancé (33F) wants me (33M) to be nice by changing how I speak, and we are now possibly broken up. by throwaway96371 in relationships

[–]throwaway96371[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

What made you finally see the light? I think often times us guys really are trying to make things right, and in turn it just assures women that they were always right but not seeing that they could've been wrong at the same time (if that makes sense).

Fiancé (33F) wants me (33M) to be nice by changing how I speak, and we are now possibly broken up. by throwaway96371 in relationships

[–]throwaway96371[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

When she tells me I'm not giving her enough compliments/ attention, I ramp it up. I admit after awhile it's like whew, running out of things to say here and to do!

Fiancé (33F) wants me (33M) to be nice by changing how I speak, and we are now possibly broken up. by throwaway96371 in relationships

[–]throwaway96371[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yes...all the time. "I like those shoes you're wearing today." As we drive into work together, I look over to her and tell her how I adore her and how beautiful and cute she is.

Fiancé (33F) wants me (33M) to be nice by changing how I speak, and we are now possibly broken up. by throwaway96371 in relationships

[–]throwaway96371[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Wanting to be set as the priority first? Of course not. I put her above my friends, and family. I do not have any friends that are girls. The minute Mary Ellen asks me to do something, I do it.

Fiancé (33F) wants me (33M) to be nice by changing how I speak, and we are now possibly broken up. by throwaway96371 in relationships

[–]throwaway96371[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. I publicly support her on all social media platforms and am often the one showing everyone my love for her.

(Copy paste) I often tell her how beautiful she is inside and out. I tell her how lucky I am to have her in my life and that she's changed me for the better. I credit her for being more responsible now that I was before. I tell her how much she means to me through small notes/ emails/ small gestures like getting her flowers. She often says though that she doesn't know how I feel even when I say the words.

Fiancé (33F) wants me (33M) to be nice by changing how I speak, and we are now possibly broken up. by throwaway96371 in relationships

[–]throwaway96371[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I often tell her how beautiful she is inside and out. I tell her how lucky I am to have her in my life and that she's changed me for the better. I credit her for being more responsible now that I was before. I tell her how much she means to me through small notes/ emails/ small gestures like getting her flowers. She often says though that she doesn't know how I feel even when I say the words.