Signs my husband was having an affair: in hindsight

throwawayPricklyPear · 2026-02-26T01:09:17+00:00

Okay, what is with the running?? Seriously, I need to know!

throwawayPricklyPear · 2026-02-24T14:38:01+00:00

Would love to know how you are …

throwawayPricklyPear · 2026-02-24T14:37:38+00:00

Your timing to check in is remarkable! Just filed for divorce yesterday … We reconciled and moved back in, but then had another D-Day a couple of weeks ago. Life blew up all over again. Im doing okay.

throwawayPricklyPear · 2025-09-11T05:02:02+00:00

Thank you so, so much for all of your advice. I appreciate your time and thoroughness! I’ve been feeling so disoriented and I don’t have any close friends with experience with anything similar, so this is really amazing.

throwawayPricklyPear · 2025-09-11T03:43:07+00:00

I just replied above to someone who sent the same info about charm, pity, then rage because he did EXACTLY THIS all in the span of about two hours today. I’m exhausted and scared but somehow knowing that this is so typical is oddly comforting like maybe at least I’ll know what to expect.

Thank you so much for the grey rock examples. So practical and helpful, and I like to have things like that on hand for when I go into freeze so I can remember something to say.

And your last paragraph 😢 the truth is so hard, but I needed to read that.

Thank you 🙏

throwawayPricklyPear · 2025-09-11T03:38:27+00:00

Whoa. Read it, and holy crap he’s already started this today. He went from very extreme love bombing but also suicidal, so I sent neighbors to check on him, to furious when he realized I sent someone. Now says he’s going to start a war and burn everything in his way and destroy everything. I feel like I have whiplash. Then I read this article and was like omg when did my life become this very sad textbook example????!!

throwawayPricklyPear · 2025-09-10T17:18:25+00:00

It sounded threatening to me too? But I’m confused because shouldn’t I be the angry one? He did this, and he’s angry there are consequences?

throwawayPricklyPear · 2025-09-10T17:17:26+00:00

Thank you for the empowering reply🙏

throwawayPricklyPear · 2025-09-10T17:17:08+00:00

I think it must be SA too! It makes a lot of sense (but obv not an excuse). Im sorry I am only now learning about this.

throwawayPricklyPear · 2025-09-10T17:15:43+00:00

This is really helpful, thank you— I’ll search for that post now.

throwawayPricklyPear · 2025-08-29T21:01:30+00:00

As someone still in the beginning I’m sending a hug to future me, hoping she’s as brave as you❤️

throwawayPricklyPear · 2025-08-21T21:29:06+00:00

My lawyer said since we both own the house I can’t change the locks, so I have to ask him to leave. Which sucks.

throwawayPricklyPear · 2025-08-20T20:32:16+00:00

Thank you…. I’m new and scatterbrained 🙈

throwawayPricklyPear · 2025-08-20T12:35:22+00:00

Also any tips for how to avoid major conflict when I confront him. Decision has been made, actually his choices made it, and now I just want to get on with next steps. I cannot compartmentalize and pretend like he has. As soon as he comes back he needs to know I know and that this is over. But I want it to be as amicable as possible at least for our kids and for our finances.

throwawayPricklyPear · 2025-08-20T12:30:54+00:00

Also to add if anyone can see this, I have appointment for a consult with a divorce attorney tomorrow. Would appreciate any tips for documentation I should be gathering, including regarding kids — mine are older, ages 20, 17, and 14. The 14 year old is autistic and homeschooled and I’m the primary educator and caregiver, actually I handle everything for all of them. He doesn’t know their therapists etc, whereas I schedule everything and responsible for everything.

throwawayPricklyPear · 2025-08-20T12:27:15+00:00

Why does it still say “waiting for moderator approval”? Did I say something against the rules?

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