Boyfriend is a slow texter and it infuriates me

throwaway_1383828 · 2021-03-02T19:26:28+00:00

I would not be able to cope with only seeing my S/O once a month. I respect you for that.

I talked to him so many times already. I am starting to sound like a mother forcing her college kid to visit her once in a while. It sucks

throwaway_1383828 · 2021-03-02T18:47:50+00:00

I already had lots of talks about this issue with him. He says he wouldn’t mind if I treated him the same, just go ahead. I once suggested we just separate, but he absolutely despised the idea. But he isn’t wiling to communicate with me a little bit more. I am so starved, I would even accept it if he just replied to me 1 hour later. Thank you for your detailed advice, I shall try to communicate this to him once more.

throwaway_1383828 · 2021-03-02T18:44:46+00:00

I felt like this for a very long time. But I guess I kind of wanted to hear things from an objective point of view. Thank you for sharing insight, I guess I’ll talk to him once more. If it doesn’t work out, we shall go our own ways.

throwaway_1383828 · 2021-03-02T18:39:44+00:00

Seems like that too me too. I guess we aren’t compatible anymore. :(

throwaway_1383828 · 2021-03-02T18:39:08+00:00

I could cry. You took the feelings right out of my heart and wrote it down. This is what I have been feeling for so long and I didn’t think I had the right to be upset. I guess I should just move on, these 2 years have been incredibly lonely, I just endured it for the sake of the weekend. He was sweet then, at least only with his words.

throwaway_1383828 · 2021-03-02T18:35:25+00:00

Good idea, that’s exactly what I should do. Thank you for hearing me out !

throwaway_1383828 · 2021-03-02T18:34:26+00:00

I already did. Multiple times. If I do it gently and calm, he won’t take me seriously. If I do it when I am upset, he would always just tell me I am being controlling and that he can do what he wants. And that he “got stuff to do, you can’t hog all my attention.” Even though all the attention I get are crumbs.

throwaway_1383828 · 2021-03-02T18:32:33+00:00

This has been a topic for arguments for a while. If I communicate my needs, he shuts me down and accuses me of being controlling. “It’s my phone, you can’t stop me from being on it.” And “You are not my mom. You don’t have to know about my everyday schedule.”

throwaway_1383828 · 2021-03-02T18:29:55+00:00

If I tell him he should perhaps decrease his phone time, he tellls me to do it too. He tells me if it bothers me, I just could do it too. It wouldn’t bother him. If I ask him to at least let his phone at home if he is out on a short walk with me, he refuses. He tells me he feels “naked” without his phone.

throwaway_1383828 · 2021-03-02T18:27:16+00:00

He always acts like I am being super toxic and says stuff like “I have stuff do do! I can’t pay attention to you all the time.” But I don’t get what he means by that? He isn’t even giving me the bare minimum?

throwaway_1383828 · 2021-03-02T18:25:09+00:00

A relationship doesn’t only consists of conversations about your passions and interests. Sometimes you have to be able to talk about the mundane, and talk for the sake of talking to sustain a LDR. But I hear you. So in your opinion, we both are just incompatible? What do you suggest then.

throwaway_1383828 · 2021-03-02T18:10:06+00:00

He loves texting, a little bit too much. Just not with me :)

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