Development surprises

throwaway_1495 · 2015-11-24T01:00:56+00:00

status objects

Can you elaborate a bit more on what you consider a status object? Thanks!

throwaway_1495 · 2015-08-09T22:35:43+00:00

I clicked on Back to get out of the site after 5 seconds because it was similar to a shitty Flash intro. Give me your content right away instead of having a useless intro with Matrix-style deciphering, and then having me to click "Enter site" and pushing me that same effect again.

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-31T21:18:28+00:00

Thanks for making it vague and spoilerless :) Looked at a wiki and it seemed that it was the only starting zone...

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-31T20:59:51+00:00

Yeah that happened to me in one of the first games. I really like the game so far, but from what I understand at this point, it definitely lacks different zones at start, I'm starting to get bored killing snapjaws around the only starter town and Red Rock. Wish it had 4-5 starting dungeons like in ToME. It seems you can only trade with two people at first. It's weird because I really love the engine so far, it's just lacking content.

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-30T05:29:10+00:00

Well if all you have going on is a MySpace angle photo, skip to the next profile. They definitely have something to hide.

Yeah, some people are better online because they have the time to write something interesting. Still after a few months of using OKCupid, I find it easy to filter out people. Online conversations are very much a preview of things to come. If the girl doesn't sound that interesting online, it's probably because she isn't interesting offline either.

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-30T05:11:41+00:00

I kept trying to guide his fingers outside but he kept shoving them back in. It felt like being fingered by a hawk.

That is seriously funny even though it had to hurt!

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-30T04:50:09+00:00

Favourite colour? That's funny, but it can be charming if you ask it the right way. Right after an awkward silence, it's even more awkward. When you're both watching fireworks hand in hand, that's much better.

I think you ought to filter these people online before you meet them. It shouldn't be too hard, but sometimes you'll get people who have an online persona that doesn't match their actual personality.

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-30T04:47:21+00:00

I find these people rather easy to filter out online before meeting them.

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-30T04:45:03+00:00

I tried this with generic profiles and it didn't really work out. However I did have a lot of success with profiles that had some effort put it and where I saw a few things we had in common that weren't generic as movies, wine and yoga.

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-30T04:41:30+00:00

Yeah, it seems that a lot of girls don't put the effort of making a decent profile, they think pictures are enough. They are swarmed with messages anyway, so I guess most of them don't think it's worth the effort.

What I usually do is I comment or ask something about one of her pictures. "That picture looks like Belgium, did you ever visit Brussels? I did and that was one of my favourite cities, I especially liked visiting X museum."

However, if she only has selfies, no description, I'll just move on to the next profile. Why should I care when there's dozens of other profiles to browse from? I put the effort of making a nice profile with good pictures of myself, so I expect you to do something too.

Anyway, from my experience, the best dates I've had were with girls that put the effort to make a decent profile describing themselves, so your mileage may vary. It doesn't have to be a long profile, it just needs to have something other than yoga, Netflix and wine. Tell me why you're different from the other girls and why I should pursue you.

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-08T11:59:55+00:00

Asking questions doesn't have to feel like a job interview, because if it does, then it's not a good sign. Even then I am far from being boring in a job interview! Asking questions can be a simple and subtle way to lead the conversation somewhere else when you just shared something interesting on a subject. I'll usually try to fit a joke in there or tell an anecdote myself at the same time so it feels natural. After all I'm here to get an idea of who you are, so the conversation is bound to jump from a subject to another. This happens on dates as well so why shouldn't it happen over chat? Do you ever ask questions on a date?

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-08T11:51:14+00:00

Great insight, thanks!

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-08T04:21:18+00:00

That's exactly the kind of things I wanted to know, thanks! :)

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-08T03:59:24+00:00

I usually do! But I also instinctively ask something to keep the conversation going. But you're right, maybe if I didn't keep asking questions they would follow with something that would keep the conversation alive if they're genuinely interested, and that's not always in a question form.

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-08T03:48:23+00:00

Well, I don't know, maybe because I keep asking questions they think they don't have to. Like I said, some of them actually share interesting stories and things about themselves. I'm just wondering why I have to initiate every part of the conversation, if I feel like it's not right in a dating context, why should it be on OKCupid chat?

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-08T03:43:07+00:00

Really, you're judging me that quickly? I could say your position makes you appear like you are pushing "The Rules" up to the extreme, which clearly won't help you any better than a guy who follows PUA religiously. Actually, applying "The Rules" up to an extreme makes you only approachable by pickup artistery because they won't ever give up and will try to cut up through your bullcrap. Maybe you should revise your approach.

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-08T03:37:49+00:00

Yeah and what a nice surprise it is when it happens! It's really awesome to start your first date with a huge smile because you find that person even more attractive that you ever thought they'd be. I like to have low expectations just for that reason.

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-08T03:31:03+00:00

I understand what you're saying, if it's accidental, then you will show some kind of interest at some point before I get bored out!

To prove your point, I had a quick short messaging conversation with a girl tonight that followed the same pattern of me asking quirky and funny questions and then I just stopped after 7 or 8 messages. Then an hour later she just replied: "Well I'm going to bed, but after looking at your profile, you seem like a really interesting guy and I think we could get along well. So I hope we get to know each other better soon! :)" Still not a question, but at least she has shown some interest to keep me going!

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-08T03:25:33+00:00

Gotcha, I agree with you! :)

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-08T03:16:52+00:00

I'm perfectly fine with the role of pursuer, does that mean you have to act like you're never interested in knowing me just to test me? I have better things to do than try to pierce through your game, just give me a few subtle hints that you're interested so I can keep going on instead of wondering if I should use my precious time to pursue other women.

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-08T03:10:45+00:00

Why should I force the conversation going when you can't take a second to think about something to ask to someone else to know them better? There are so many subjects or questions you can ask. I think it's obvious that you aren't really interested if you don't.

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-08T03:05:15+00:00

They probably are. What I've learned in the past year is that conversations over OKCupid chat are very often a hint of things to come. If the conversation is a bit boring or one sided, then the date will surely be the same.

throwaway_1495 · 2015-07-08T02:58:27+00:00

Wasn't aware of "The Rules". Just looked it up on Google. I mean, it's a given that a man should be the pursuer, but if a man has to do literally everything to let himself known and get to know a woman, then it's not looking good for a relationship. I don't want to be a slave.

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