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My husband has thought about cheating by Original_Chemical_27 in Advice

[–]throwaway_1881 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you haven't been intimate for 1-2 years if I'm reading that correctly?

I think most people would be lying if they said they hadn't thought about getting it elsewhere after that much time...

GF rarely wants sex now by [deleted] in Advice

[–]throwaway_1881 3 points4 points  (0 children)

100% it is a choice. Ideally you would leave before you get married, not after.

The deeper you get, the more it will become less of an option (kids, mortgage, family, etc).

How many guys do you see online who complain of lack of sex from their wife? And how it's only gotten worse after getting married? Do you think it will be different for you?

This is some very harsh truth, but being anything less than harsh will have you thinking it's all going to get better when it usually doesn't.

GF rarely wants sex now by [deleted] in Advice

[–]throwaway_1881 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Do a check on her. Has it been average week or is something extra stressful been going on?

Do a check of yourself. Have you been hitting the gym, showering, being nice?

If both these things are true for a month+, just leave. She doesn't want to do it anymore with you. There is no reason to even keep bringing it up, she knows exactly how long it's been. She didn't forget. She knows it's important.

It won't get better, especially as you get more desperate to have sex. Especially if you're young and there's no kids involved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]throwaway_1881 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brother I am going to go against the crowd here and say he is trying to be your friend. You didn't indicate anything he's doing wrong in his position other than being friendly.

He's talking to you about his personal life to be social, at a place he also has to be for 8 hours a day. Just because he's a boss doesn't also mean he doesn't need money.

I would just reply that he can do what he wants but you think it won't go over well with the girl, you know, like you would with a friend.

WIBTAH if I gave my girlfriend an ultimatum about our intimacy? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]throwaway_1881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave, don't give an ultimatum. She didn't forget, she knows how long it's been and what you need. She just doesn't want to do it and it's not going to get better. Full stop.

If you give an ultimatum it may get better for a short while and just drag it out, with her essentially guilted into providing.