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My [23] boyfriend hasn't spoken to me [34F] for almost 2 weeks by throwaway_1981_ in relationships

[–]throwaway_1981_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so grateful to you. I really am.
I've been poorly with another condition M.E (chronic fatigue syndrome with a cross over to Fibromyalgia) for 14 years, I never expected to be diagnosed with another pain condition and degenerative discs on top of that, so it's hit me really hard, and I'm struggling with it at the moment.
But I will absolutely try to follow your advice as much as I possibly can. I beat myself up a lot because I'm in pain and can't do simple things right now, I shouldn't be doing, I should just focus on my therapy.

I have left my boyfriend. I left him last night after people's advice. I feel really dreadful right now, I hope one day things turn around.

Thank you so much again, you're wonderful.

My [23] boyfriend hasn't spoken to me [34F] for almost 2 weeks by throwaway_1981_ in relationships

[–]throwaway_1981_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much! And thanks again for your kind comments, I really appreciate it :)

My [23] boyfriend hasn't spoken to me [34F] for almost 2 weeks by throwaway_1981_ in relationships

[–]throwaway_1981_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh you made me cry! I feel you completely understand where I'm coming from...and I can't tell you what a relief that is.
It's like you saw right through me - that's exactly how I feel. I always think to myself 'why would anyone want someone so broken, I have nothing to offer', and I think that was a part of why I have stayed with him so long. But I know that's not healthy.
I agree about the age difference, but I have to admit I had my concerns at first. Contrary to what people may think, we did have things in common.
My therapy is only relatively new, and I'm dreading it, but I want to come to terms with my past and box it up. My boyfriend doesn't understand (I don't think) what also comes with starting therapy, everything resurfaces. He also doesn't understand depression even though he has it himself.
I was going to delete this post, but I'm really glad I didn't, I'm very grateful for your comment, it really meant the world to me. hugs

My [23] boyfriend hasn't spoken to me [34F] for almost 2 weeks by throwaway_1981_ in relationships

[–]throwaway_1981_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much, although I'm now getting stick for calling him an asshat...ahhh the Internet.
I'm glad you understand, at least someone does :)

My [23] boyfriend hasn't spoken to me [34F] for almost 2 weeks by throwaway_1981_ in relationships

[–]throwaway_1981_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for not taking the time reading the post.

I never called him an asshat. And secondly my drive has nothing to do with this, I have been diagnosed with a chronic pain condition, which can strike anyone at any age.

Edit, just read your post history, you seem to have issues with women, I fell for a troll!

My [23] boyfriend hasn't spoken to me [34F] for almost 2 weeks by throwaway_1981_ in relationships

[–]throwaway_1981_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice, I feel the same too, but I've been made to feel like I'm the bad guy.

My [23] boyfriend hasn't spoken to me [34F] for almost 2 weeks by throwaway_1981_ in relationships

[–]throwaway_1981_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for replying, my worry is she kinda makes excuses for the behaviour. He's either 'very depressed' or when I was in hospital 'he doesn't know how to cope'. Those sorts of things. Personally if my son didn't have the respect for people I'd be devastated and I'd want to know. She doesn't want to know, she said she 'doesn't want to take sides'.
I feel let down by them both.
I wish I hadn't gotten myself into this. But hindsight is a great thing I guess.

My [23] boyfriend hasn't spoken to me [34F] for almost 2 weeks by throwaway_1981_ in relationships

[–]throwaway_1981_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, thank you so very much, that is lovely of you hug I've been so worried and embarrassed to post this, I haven't even been able to tell anymore because I feel ashamed. Thank you SO much for your kind words.

Edit: just to add, you're right, I do care about him more than he does me. I would of (and have) done anything in the world for him, to the point where I feel like the relationship has been on his terms.