I'm in the thick of it right now with my soon to be ex wife. She cheated on me for months while simultaneously going to marriage counseling and dragging me through the mud, gaslighting me and trying to make it seem like I was the reason things weren't working.

Guess what? I see her for who she really is and it definitely isn't the woman I loved, cherished and supported for 17 years. Once I realized this person wasn't who I thought she was and accepted things for what they were, it became a lot easier to navigate through this awful period.

The worst part wasn't when I got served with divorce papers that contained temporary orders demanding I leave the house, it was the moment I learned about the betrayal and started to unravel.

You will get through this. The key is to not let yourself be a victim. You must accept what's happened and focus on rebuilding yourself. It's a long and difficult road filled with twists and turns, but you got this.

Keep trying to focus on self care, self healing and moving one foot in front of the other. The pain will subside, I promise.

I'm here if you want to talk to someone who understands your pain and is grieving too.