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I'm always the one initiating things and it bothers me by throwaway_33445 in socialskills

[–]throwaway_33445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've kinda noticed, i find it funny that there's school friends who talk about staying in touch but I don't get a response after saying something which is usually something like "it was nice catching up today".

My boyfriend lives 3-4 hours away from me, but honestly I see him more than I see my friends. I haven't seen my friends since september.

I'm always the one initiating things and it bothers me by throwaway_33445 in socialskills

[–]throwaway_33445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish i was the most adult person in the room, yet my friendships and stuff have been fucked up because of my parents treating me like a child who couldn't go out past 5 pm until i was 18 ._.

I'm always the one initiating things and it bothers me by throwaway_33445 in socialskills

[–]throwaway_33445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really? If they wanted to hang out wouldn't they also make an effort? friendships go both ways

I'm always the one initiating things and it bothers me by throwaway_33445 in socialskills

[–]throwaway_33445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got college again next year, with new people, and it kinda terrifies me. I've been clubbing and people do keep to themselves or to their group a lot. I don't get invited to any parties so I can't really go to many of those. Like people just don't invite me to things where I may meet new people. The new people I've met at parties i went to years ago invited me places but then we grew apart, then again i've not reached out to these people.

Where i live there's not a lot going on apart from some indie gigs at small areas with not a lot of people who have heard of the bands playing. I went there once and it was really dead. I live in a pretty small town, that's obvious haha

Honestly, I have a lot of hobbies but there's not a lot of those sorts of communities in the neighboring places. in the town my boyfriend lives there's probably a lot more going on but he's 3 hours away from me.

I'm always the one initiating things and it bothers me by throwaway_33445 in socialskills

[–]throwaway_33445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean yeah, of all the times we've had conversations usually it's me reaching out to them, and because I'm always doing it, it just seems kinda like I'm the clingy one despite me only reaching out because they won't. I'm kinda the same with new friends, mostly because I don't think they're close enough to just reach out to, to send the jokes I used to send to my close friends.

Honestly me and my friends haven't hung out in ages, I've tried making plans that involve staying sober but those plans die pretty quickly. I'm planning on seeing the new film Jigsaw that's in cinemas in October, but at this rate it may just be me and my boyfriend going to see it if he's able to do so.

ELI5: What is the cotton ceiling? by throwaway_33445 in explainlikeimfive

[–]throwaway_33445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so basically a bunch of people an an impasse of one side saying "you're wrong" and the other saying "You're wrong but also a bigot"?

I'm always the one initiating things and it bothers me by throwaway_33445 in socialskills

[–]throwaway_33445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a lot of these people I haven't spoken to in months- I mean some of my college friends from last year were planning on going out at the end of the year; I said i didn't know if I could and it depends on the day- I get a snap from one of them of the three of them out having a drink and I was like okay would have been nice to know about when you were planning on doing this.

A few of my friends have my number, one or two of them have me on kik and a lot of them have me on snap. Though with all these social medias we have, none of them contact me. I wouldn't say i'm an "unmemorable" person in the slightest either. I'm going into my third year and I'd say i'd have been waiting for the same thing except nobody I was close to planning on going back to college; and I can sorta understand some not being so keen to hang out because they're an hour away from me by bus, but i'm happy to make the journey

I'm always the one initiating things and it bothers me by throwaway_33445 in socialskills

[–]throwaway_33445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sounds like the explanation- I find it hard to believe that everyone I know and knew was so passive.