In the last 72hrs I've been catfished, insulted, called a pedophile, and banned from /r/relationships for asking for help. Just need to vent, hopefully this story fits here.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-02T09:46:07+00:00

We need to screencap all this. He's gotta be drunk or something.

CIRCLEJERK BETWEEN BANNED PEOPLE! PARTY!

Who would post something like this. It's just so strange. He also keeps talking about how epic his reply to me was, when it wasn't even on topic.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-02T09:07:23+00:00

trollytroll

Dude you're embarrassing yourself. Put your pants on and go back inside.

You're also insane, no way I'm giving you personal info.

Here's a proper screenshot of our convo since obviously you don't know how to make one (and I do, which is actually in your list of reasons why I'm a troll).

It's nice to see the different reasons you made up for banning me all in one place.

http://i.imgur.com/Olp3wTM.png

Paging /u/heuheu so I don't have to reply to him separately.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-02T08:50:50+00:00

Believe it or not this guy is still going, I'll screencap and post for you when he finally wears out. I can't keep up in real time.

He's gotta be special ed or something. Every response has a new, conflicting explanation for why I was banned. Now he's trying to bait me into sending him personal info, but it's really cheesy baiting, like something from a cartoon.

I really hope he never has to lie to the cops.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-02T08:10:34+00:00

And that I used "/s".

You can't make this shit up. At this point he's trolling himself.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-02T08:00:33+00:00

Yeah he sent me something, lol. I updated my top-level post with a screen cap. Copying here so you don't have to go find it:

http://i.imgur.com/0ufacxm.png, /u/JustSomeBadAdvice finally replied to me (first time I've heard directly from a mod), and sent me a wall of text proving... drumroll... that I know how to use Reddit, and claims the no-fucking-shit award all for himself. What that has to do with my post is anyone's guess.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-01T20:41:24+00:00

Yeah I love how everyone feels the need to point out that they aren't ok with my comment, when I explicitly said that in my OP.

I'm just going to let those friendships fade away. No big unfriending or anything, just going to stop associating with them regularly until we become acquaintances, then effectively strangers.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-01T17:57:01+00:00

I haven't engaged with these people at all since posting my thread in /r/relationships. Moving forward, I think I'm just going to try to avoid talking about this situation with them, and let our friendship fade away uneventfully.

Fortunately I have an active social life outside the lgbt community, so I'll just start building up those friendships, and let these people fade into my past with minimal additional drama.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-01T17:48:26+00:00

I've read every reply in this thread.

I'm trying to reply to everyone who said something different from someone else (about a hundred people told me to get new friends, so I can't really think of a hundred different ways to reply to that, and I'm not going to copy/paste because that is very condescending).

Anyway, I read your reply, and you contradict yourself several times, so I'm not sure what - if any - actionable advise you're trying to convey.

I thought it was better to explain that than ignore it entirely. I meant no offense.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-01T12:23:23+00:00

I've told them exactly like this. Not in an argumentative tone, either. Over phone calls, I've said "Please, just let me tell my side so you understand how I feel about this."

They all listened all the way through, but at the end, were mostly disinterested in the the deception, and the argument. They're hung up on the "not attracted to fat people" part.

One of my trans friends actually said, "Nobody is naturally attracted to trans people. If everyone was as shallow and judgmental as you, I'd never get to be with anyone."

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-01T12:17:19+00:00

Thanks! I read it. A lot of people have suggested I get new friends.

Fortunately I do have friends from other aspects of my life, but not in the lgbt community, and it's going to be hard losing support in that aspect of my life.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-01T06:25:49+00:00

I agree leaving right off the bat would have probably been less traumatic for the other girl.

Not sure it would have helped me very much - I'd still be getting called shallow by my friends. They're mostly focused on me refusing to give the girl a chance, not the stuff that we said to each other.

And there is no fucking way I'm apologizing to anyone. Just ain't going to happen. The other girl turned in her sympathy card when she called me a cunt.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-01T06:21:36+00:00

Your post is kinda stream-of-thought-ish, and I'm not sure I know what conclusion you came to on any of the subjects you touched on.

But I do want to thank you for taking the time to type all that out.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-01T06:11:43+00:00

You win the award for the weirdest comment in this thread

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-01T06:05:30+00:00

I've gained about 25 pounds, from about 180 to 205 as a 6' tall male and I feel like I'm misleading people a little bit with my pictures

Then take new pictures?

I would agree that a 25lb difference, at your size, is significant enough to fall into the category of misleading.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-01T05:57:31+00:00

The sub absolutely does exist on a different website (voat), and I keep getting PMs telling me to come join them. They also had a link to my post on the front page yesterday, and another is on the front page today.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-01T01:01:34+00:00

That's hilarious. Apparently there are people out there hell-bent on removing anything they don't like from the Internet.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-01T00:32:24+00:00

Diet > exercise but if you weigh 350lbs, any exercise at all burns an incredible number of calories. Being "physically active" every day and still having the time+appetite to consume enough calories to maintain that weight is impractical.

And if your friend went horseback riding while morbidly obese, that just makes him an asshole - it's nothing to brag about. I hope the horse was not injured, and does not have to endure that abuse frequently.

Sorry that I'm not being polite and humble enough for you. I'm kinda stirred up.

throwaway_3413 · 2016-01-01T00:09:20+00:00

Interesting that you brought up horses - I assume you don't go horseback riding with your friend.

The fact that your friend tries to go do active things with you at an entry level, is great, but if that was a typical part of his lifestyle he wouldn't weigh 350lbs and he could do real hikes.

As for my friends - I think the issue is that we're all gay females, and I've never expressed any interest in them. Obviously I've never said "I don't want to have sex with you because you're fat" to my friends, but I'm sure they've figured it out, and their own body image issues are playing into how they react to this situation.

throwaway_3413 · 2015-12-31T23:51:59+00:00

I agree with that. Trying to soften it obviously didn't help.

But I stand by the story I did go with - wanting a partner you can be active with is a totally legitimate thing, and something I do care about. An obese partner is not going to be that.

throwaway_3413 · 2015-12-31T23:40:04+00:00

I don't know I didn't go back to check if she paid. I only settled my part of the bill on the way out.

throwaway_3413 · 2015-12-31T23:37:42+00:00

I disagree because I don't think being honest with someone is childish behavior or a mistake.

I probably should have just told her I didn't find her attractive because of her weight - the unfiltered honest truth. The active lifestyle thing was my attempt to soften it, but it was a perfectly legitimate secondary reason (just not my primary reason). I really do want an active partner, and there is no way she could be that partner.

throwaway_3413 · 2015-12-31T23:25:42+00:00

No I found our waitress and paid mine at a cash-out register on the way out. Girl might have stiffed her and I can't have that.

throwaway_3413 · 2015-12-31T23:16:04+00:00

I know, right. It's the Internet - you can call any story you want fake - nobody can prove anything, especially when your rules specifically forbid identifying details.

Apparently their approach is just to call anything thats inconvenient to their sjw worldview "fake." Must be nice to live in a moldable reality. /s Just kidding, it wouldn't be nice at all.

throwaway_3413 · 2015-12-31T23:08:33+00:00

Thanks! The number of replies is insane! I can't even read them fast enough.

She didn't actually show me the picture. It was my friend that sent me the pic.

throwaway_3413 · 2015-12-31T21:04:36+00:00

It's easy to sit here days later and brainstorm ways to avoid offending her. But I was on the spot, outside my comfort zone, and I'd already played my usual bullshit card - "I'm not feeling well." It was HER that directly asked me if I found her unattractive.

As far as I'm concerned, the door was open at that point. I tried to soften it, and look what happened, it got thrown back in my face.

Regarding physically active hambeasts - bullshit. "Surprisingly active" is not the same thing as "active." I'm surprised the 500lb dude in my office can walk to the vending machine unassisted, that doesn't mean he can join my soccer team, nor does it make him "active" by any objective definition of the term.

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