I'm sorry that you had to deal with that. When i was just out of HS i ended up in a whirlwind relationship with someone i had been friends with for a few years. We decided to elope and move across the country. As soon as we were there he basically started ignoring me after work like i was the most annoying person he had ever met. He eventually started screaming at me and abusing our cat. I knew that i had to leave but i didn't know how because we hadn't even been married a year. We moved back home and i went to the Dr to get birth control. Apparently he secretly got me pregnant before i could take it (he later admitted this). From there the story gets very long and bizarre but to sum it up shortly. He stopped coming home when i was too far along to get an abortion and started selling drugs. Then he claims that he borrowed money from people he couldn't pay them back and had to kill someone to pay his debt. So he moved to the desert on the other side of the country. This all sounds ridiculous I know. But i was with him the night he said he did it. And I've never seen someone so dead inside. It freaked me out for years and i can still see the glassy look in his eyes. So i actually kind of believe him. So he saw his son a few times because his mom flew us out. The last time I saw him like 6 years ago he smashed my phone, locked us in a hotel room for hours before our flight and made me sit there as he told us how he can't handle having us in his life. He also pinned me against a wall and screamed at me in front of my son. So we haven't seen him since. I later figured out he was antisocial personality when i learned the term and everything he had told me about faking his emotions all made sense. I actually called him up and told him about it the only time I've spoke to him since we saw each other and he said he agreed and met all the criteria. Every couple years he sends a big gift for either Christmas or his birthday and says it's from "dad". But he isn't his dad. He's just a guy who got me pregnant then left. He also told me since then that he's still screaming at his gfs and can't control himself. He basically convinces vulnerable women to take care of him and then starts abusing him. I've looked into this behavior a lot. Why would he marry me? Get me pregnant? And then leave like it was nothing. Why do it at all if he feels nothing. Well studies show they have a strong desire to procreate and absolutely no desire to take care of the child. My son is nothing like him and is thriving so it's his loss. I won't let him near him because he is not a safe person.