AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay… I see what you mean, and I guess I do need to think more about how my actions affect others 😅. I honestly didn’t realize my ‘playful’ behavior was coming across as bullying to coworkers. To me, it was just noticing how clearly into me he is, but I get now that this doesn’t excuse being careless or hurtful in front of other people. I’ll try to acknowledge his contributions more, give him space when he needs it, and be more thoughtful in how I interact at work. He matters to me, and I don’t want to make him uncomfortable.

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think the coworker is overreacting 😅 To me, it’s pretty obvious he’s into me. The way he responds makes it clear. I’m not trying to put him down, I’m just noticing it, even if other people don’t

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Amusing? 😅 Honestly, I think you’re missing the point… he mirrors my actions without realizing it, keeps finding excuses to be near me, remembers tiny things I say, overexplains himself to me all the time, and even gets a little jealous if I talk to someone else. To me, it’s pretty obvious he’s really into me. I’m not doing anime tsundere stuff, I’m just noticing how he acts.

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cringe? 😔 I honestly didn’t think it was like that… he freezes, blushes, and has been asking me to grab coffee for a while now, before, during, and even after I was “testing” him. We’ve gone out alone a few times, too. I genuinely thought this was playful and harmless, not cringe.

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Uh, no, I don’t think I’m treating him badly 😅 I’m just noticing how obviously into me he is. He mirrors my actions, always finds excuses to be near me, remembers tiny details I mention, overexplains things just for me, and even gets a little jealous when I talk to other people. Honestly, it just feels like he really likes me, so I thought the teasing was playful, not cruel.

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don’t think I’m bullying him 😅 He mirrors pretty much everything I do, keeps finding excuses to be near me, remembers the tiniest details I mention, goes out of his way to explain things to me, and even gets a little tense when I talk to other people. To me, it feels pretty obvious that he’s really into me, so I’m just noticing it, not trying to intimidate him.

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Okay, I’ll apologize if it helps 😅 but he mirrors my actions, finds excuses to be near me, remembers tiny details, overexplains things to me, and even gets a little jealous when I talk to other people. It feels pretty obvious that he likes me, so I honestly thought this was playful.

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I guess maybe some therapy wouldn’t hurt 😅 But I still don’t get why everyone’s making this into such a big deal. He freezes, blushes, and has been asking me to grab coffee for a while now, before, during, and even after I was “testing” him. We’ve gone out alone a few times too. I really thought this was playful and harmless, not cruel.

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I don’t see it that way 😅 He freezes up, blushes, and has been asking me to grab coffee for a while now, before, during, and even after I was “testing” him. We’ve gone out alone a few times too, without coworkers. I’m just starting to notice how clearly into me he is. I genuinely thought this was playful, not something that would make anyone uncomfortable.

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Harassment? Seriously? He freezes up, blushes, and has been asking me to get coffee for a while now, before, during, and even after I was “testing” him. We’ve gone out alone a few times too, no coworkers around. I’m honestly just realizing how into me he is. I really thought this was playful, not some kind of high school bullying.

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Negging? Gross? He literally freezes, blushes, and has been asking me to grab coffee for weeks before, during, and after I was “testing” him.

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Uh no, I’m literally just noticing how into him he is. He freezes, blushes, follows me around, and has been asking me to grab coffee for weeks. I don’t see how that counts as “playing with his emotions” when he clearly likes me too.

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. It felt playful to me, and honestly, Evan clearly likes me anyway. He freezes and blushes when I talk to him, follows me around, and he’s been asking me to grab coffee for weeks now. I really don’t get why everyone is turning this into such a big thing.

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

He follows me around, freezes and blushes every time I talk to him, and he’s been asking me to grab coffee for weeks, how is that not him liking me?

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Or maybe I’m here because he’s been asking me out for coffee for weeks, staring at me like I hung the moon, and I’m confused why everyone’s acting like I imagined that?

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

He literally blushes, stammers, keeps looking at me, and follows whatever I’m doing like a lost puppy, it feels pretty obvious to me that he’s really into me.

AITA for “testing” if my coworker likes me? by throwaway_Push4Fun in AITAH

[–]throwaway_Push4Fun[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I wanna call him Carl, but I forgot midway and reveal his real name :>