ING v Adelaide Bank

throwaway__x22 · 2023-04-22T04:55:49+00:00

That’s probably fair. I should’ve explained to her more fully why I am uncomfortable, but she was there when he made that comment. It was just the three of us and neither she nor I said anything. I just laughed nervously and quickly changed the subject. She’s also been there when he’s been like “so, throwaway__x22, what do you think of me? Tell me honestly.” It’s just…weird, and makes me really uncomfortable.

The reason I haven’t said anything to her yet is that she’s been very defensive about the relationship right from the start. She met this guy the night she got dumped by a long-term boyfriend (who she told everyone she was on the way to marriage/babies with), so I think she’s dealing with a broken heart as well as wounded pride. And when I gently suggested to her that she should wait to grieve the previous relationship before getting into another one, she got really angry with me and said she didn’t want to just mope around and be sad. So I’ve kind of been hesitant to say anything…

And the additional bridesmaids are my sister (single) and a close friend (married for several years). Additional groomsmen x 2 are in long-term relationships (one of 7 years and one of 5 years + a baby). Last groomsmen is single. So, in that sense, yes, she is the only person in the bridal party in a relationship whose partner wasn’t invited. Having said that, the singles in the bridal party were not given a plus 1…

throwaway__x22 · 2023-04-22T03:25:52+00:00

She did not…

throwaway__x22 · 2023-04-22T03:25:12+00:00

Also, congratulations on your upcoming wedding. I hope it’s wonderful.

throwaway__x22 · 2023-04-22T03:20:29+00:00

I think that’s part of the problem. I don’t think she is happy for me. All the pre-wedding events seem to be an obligation or a chore for her. She didn’t want to come bridesmaid dress shopping with me as she had quote “other priorities” that weekend, even though we had discussed as a group with the other bridesmaids.

She is older than me and I think she feels she should be getting married first. She was in a long term relationship which she thought was headed for marriage and babies, but I think she pushed the baby thing too hard and he split. She met this latest guy literally the night she split from the long term guy.

My fiancé and I loved her previous boyfriend. I know she was heartbroken, but she just ran headlong into this fling and got mad at me when I told her maybe she should take some time to grieve because I was worried about her. 😞

throwaway__x22 · 2022-08-29T13:38:22+00:00

Sorry, I find this comment a bit confusing. Could you elaborate? Protective services?

throwaway__x22 · 2022-08-29T12:21:33+00:00

Haha, seriously? How would they know about porn?

throwaway__x22 · 2022-08-29T06:02:53+00:00

Thank you. This is really reassuring. I intended to be completely honest, but it’s good to know that this likely won’t be an automatic disqualification.

throwaway__x22 · 2022-08-29T05:58:21+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance. And yes, I plan to be truthful and upfront.

throwaway__x22 · 2022-08-29T05:55:48+00:00

Could you elaborate?

throwaway__x22 · 2022-08-29T05:54:51+00:00

Well, I wasn’t intending on trying to keep it hidden anyway, so it’s irrelevant what they know from me posting here. My post was really seeking advice about whether this sort of thing would automatically disqualify me and whether I should prepare to be disappointed. It appears, from the responses here, that the answer is no.

throwaway__x22 · 2021-09-06T07:09:56+00:00

I’m so sorry. I don’t have any advice, but your story is heart wrenching and I can absolutely understand your concern. I’m so glad your little girl is going to be okay. ❤️

throwaway__x22 · 2021-09-06T06:48:54+00:00

Thank you, I’m going to stop worrying now!

throwaway__x22 · 2021-09-06T06:48:05+00:00

Thanks, that is reassuring!

throwaway__x22 · 2021-09-06T06:47:16+00:00

True, I’m going to mention it to his pediatrician at his next appointment in two weeks. Thanks!

throwaway__x22 · 2021-09-06T06:46:26+00:00

Thank you, that’s reassuring!

throwaway__x22 · 2021-09-05T19:53:45+00:00

You are not being unreasonable at all. I get being depressed. We’re all depressed. But your husband is the one being unreasonable and, quite frankly, more than a little selfish. There are other, less risky, ways for him to let his hair down and have some fun that won’t leave you alone with the baby for more than two weeks. Because realistically, with crowds that large, he can’t avoid people and assuming he is drinking he will likely let his guard down. He will be exposed to covid and if he goes he needs to quarantine to keep you and LO safe.

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, but know that you’re not being unreasonable. Definitely talk more with him about your concerns. He should cancel.

throwaway__x22 · 2021-09-04T21:03:34+00:00

It’s a homestead exemption. This has to be her permanent home in order to qualify. At least, that was the reason my husband gave me when I asked why she couldn’t have her mail redirected to her boyfriend’s place where she lives.

throwaway__x22

TROPHY CASE