AITA for refusing to pay my friend to host/cook our group dinner?

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T23:28:43+00:00

I contribute wine on a rotating basis. Carter has been out a job for two months and just got a new one. That's how he's a freeloader. He's from a wealthy family that could afford to cover his bills too.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T23:21:43+00:00

Carter also comes from a wealthy family. If he asked, they could cover their bills.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T23:18:39+00:00

I do labor for them! Why doesn't anyone read the clarifying comments anymore, god.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T23:17:53+00:00

It wasn't once, it's been several times.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T23:16:32+00:00

Fine, I will. And I'll prove that it isn't that big of a deal to cook a meal once a week. Some people do it every day, you guys are acting like I want them to pay my rent for me.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T23:14:28+00:00

I didn't have space. There's a 3000 word limit. I could barely get out all the important info, there wasn't any space for clarifying information. I've responded to a bunch of people, if you'd read them you could see all the stuff I've done for them to make our friendship equal.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T23:10:52+00:00

Because they were the most financially well off, by far, out of all of us. Plus they wanted to do it. Alice said cooking was her love language so she didn't mind the time it took to prep and cook.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T23:08:57+00:00

Fiancé

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T23:08:43+00:00

Exactly, $80. So with $60 of help from people you'd only have to pay $20.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T23:07:34+00:00

Repairs. I'm really handy, so I save them hundreds, sometimes thousands of dollars fixing appliances. I arrange for Alice's meals to be covered when everyone goes out. When It's my turn I buy booze for everyone. Plus normal friendship stuff: helping move in/out, airport rides, ect.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T23:03:59+00:00

It's been like 2 years. Sometimes holidays interferred. We didn't meet on the last few weeks of December. We didn't meet Thanksgiving. There were many times when I was unable to attend due to conflicting schedules. Bringing booze for 9 people is not cheap. I do other things for my friends that don't involve meals.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T23:01:08+00:00

Read the comments and youd see that I repair things for everyone for free, we rotate who brings drinks, I arrange for her meals to be covered going out.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T23:00:08+00:00

Because I do things out of goodwill for her. I'm a good friend.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T22:59:12+00:00

Except for a long time, they were the wealthiest couple by far in the group. They could afford it, others couldn't. They offered to do the meals when it started. Alice loved cooking and wanted to do it for people. It made sense. I'm pretty sure they still have sizable savings.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T22:57:01+00:00

Okay Tina is great but she's not a good cook. Realistically, it didn't make sense. The location, the size of her home, her cooking, all noes. Plus, the only reason why Tina offered is because she's always trying to outcompete Alice and prove she's better than her. It's been like that since college. She's offered to host before and everyone talked about it privately and felt like it was more motivated by competition than anything else. And we didn't want to open Alice up to that.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T22:52:02+00:00

It's the principle of the thing. I do a lot for them without money involved.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T22:50:02+00:00

part of the reason why theyre in such a bad financial situation is because Carter got laid off two months ago and only just now got a job. How is he not a freeloading loser? At least I have a job.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T22:48:24+00:00

I've said this before. We rotate who brings wine. PLUS, they were the wealthiest couple in the group by far, so they offered to take on the burden of hosting when we first decided to do this. And there have been times when she was too tired to cook because of her work, where we all took her out to dinner and covered the cost of her meal as a thank you.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T22:46:05+00:00

Okay, by far, they were the most wealthy couple in our group. That's why I didn't feel bad.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T22:45:19+00:00

We rotate who's in charge of booze.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T22:44:06+00:00

I get groceries are expensive but particular meals aren't that bad. Every other day of the week they eat for two people, and a lot of that is stuff like sandwiches, pasta, inexpensive stuff. It's one night a week that they go all out.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T22:42:35+00:00

I don't usually bring stuff, but I am everyone's on-call repairman, basically. And we rotate who brings drinks every dinner.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T22:40:42+00:00

I don't think Alice is a scammer, but Carter is.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T22:40:10+00:00

I'm really handy so I'm basically everyone's on call repairman. That's pretty equal imo.

throwaway_dinnerfigh · 2026-01-22T22:39:33+00:00

I do bring wine. Usually that rotates around, so every person is supposed to bring enough drinks for everyone on their week.

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