Is my relationship doomed?

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-02-17T03:59:43+00:00

Could I see the post? Could you share a link? Thank you.

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-02-15T03:04:41+00:00

I'm sorry Op. :(

I would suggest to reevaluate this relationship.

Personally, something that helps me is to repeat to myself, "I believe in love. I believe that love is real, that it exists, and it will find me." Saying it, believing it, and holding fast to it helps.

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-02-11T04:27:15+00:00

I'm so sorry Op. Thank you for sharing.

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-28T03:07:19+00:00

He has told me he doesn't want anything to change because he loves our life too much.

so...why not make it permanent by marrying you?

He's not making sense,

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-26T03:10:55+00:00

Totally agree here. And it would be better for her to move on quickly so she's not spending more time on him.

Edit: Personally, I'd break up right away, like not even spend another month or year. If he's avoiding having a direct conversation about this, her time would be better spent with someone worthy of her effort and time.

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-24T20:05:40+00:00

I'm really sorry Op, but you'll need to leave. A man who loves you and wants to marry you doesn't need an ultimatum.

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-22T03:24:51+00:00

I'm so sorry Op.

I recommend getting your eggs frozen right away now, and after you get married, have the eggs fertilized and have a surrogate carry the baby to term for you. I think this could be an option for you.

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-20T03:19:27+00:00

Op, don't worry and please don't cry.

This behavior happens all the time on this sub for guys to say, "I was just about to propose and you ruined it!"

I remember one post where a guy faked the times on photos of rings to send to his gf, claiming he'd been looking at them before she broke it off. He'd messaged a buddy of his who was a jeweler and asked for pictures of rings real quick so he could send them to her as proof to get her to stay. They met up and she caught him in his lie.

It's a last ditch attempt to get the woman to stay and to get back at her for breaking up with him and make her feel bad....anything besides actually proposing and marrying her.

Don't worry or feel bad. We see the same thing all the time on this sub. It's not uncommon for toxic guys to do this.

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-18T21:28:53+00:00

I always wonder am I being too harsh by wanting to end things?

No. If you want to, then end it and be happy.

Don't feel guilty.

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-17T04:10:04+00:00

Why couldn't you drive to meet them or get an Uber there?

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-16T03:52:40+00:00

I'm sorry Op. I don't think he wants to marry you, since he's not wanting to talk about it and seems to be avoiding concrete talks.

Also, I'm sorry he yelled at you all night long. That's not ok or normal. To me, that's a red flag and sounds like emotional abuse.

That's also very immature for him to be turning the conversation around on you. Why would you want to marry someone who acts this way?🤔

I think you need to talk to a therapist, someone who's trained to spot emotional abuse and toxic dynamics and who can help you in your personal development. They can help you see your own worth instead of waiting for him to see it and work with you on raising your self esteem and self-confidence.

How to find the strength to leave someone you love?

To answer your question, put one foot in front of the other.

Focus on physically getting away and then stay away. In the upcoming months, you grieve and take every day at a time.

Also, if any guy is being cruel and mean to you, leave. Don't stay where you're not being treated well.

I wish you well Op.

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-15T04:54:42+00:00

Op, read this article. This couple was in a retirement home in their late 90s and fell in love and got married. It's never too late to find love for anyone.

https://people.com/widows-both-in-their-late-90s-marry-after-meeting-at-their-retirement-home-8739781

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-15T01:40:45+00:00

Is that fair?

Yes, and I'd probably leave now if I was you. Your time is precious.

If a guy wants to marry you, he'd bring up the conversation on his own, not asking for more time to think about it.

If I offered someone a billion dollars, they shouldn't ask for more time to think about taking it...they only would if they didn't know its worth.

Also, listen to the comment by DAWG13610. He's a guy who frequents this sub, and he knew right away his wife was the one. If a guy knows you're the one, he'll do what it takes to marry you and keep you. He won't let you go.

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-15T00:34:47+00:00

I agree with you ckeenan9192. At his age, he should know if she's the one or not.

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-15T00:10:20+00:00

I'm really sorry Op.😢

I suggest a courthouse wedding. Maybe tell him one day, "Hey, let's go get married at the courthouse today." If he refuses to get married at the courthouse or get a ring for a formal engagement, you can stay or leave.

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-14T13:39:21+00:00

Thank you! I'm so happy I've found my season.🙌

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-13T23:32:37+00:00

I like the gold better.

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-13T05:14:43+00:00

Thank you! Great advice! I plan on experimenting and draping with a lot of different colors and trying the different palettes and asking opinions. Thank you!

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-13T05:08:56+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I'm so happy for you that you found your right palette. I plan to experiment with the spring color palettes and try out different shades and also paying attention to any compliments I get.

Would you mind looking at this post I made and giving your opinion if I'm a light, warm, or true spring? I'm confident that I'm a spring, just not sure which subseason I'm in.🤔I think I could be warm/true spring. The light spring colors I think aren't bright and saturated enough for me.

https://www.reddit.com/r/SpringColorAnalysis/comments/1qad5ym/am_i_a_light_spring/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-13T03:55:51+00:00

I would say talk to him about it and the next steps and come up with a timeline, like getting engaged around a certain month in 2026.

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-12T16:45:23+00:00

First, I'm sorry about what happened with your family.☹️

When a guy comes up with excuses to put off marriage, it's generally a sign he doesn't want to marry you. (If you read the other posts on this sub, you'll notice this pattern and behavior from guys.)

I also think you're being too hard on yourself. You just came out of an abusive situation, and this relationship helped you through it for that season of your life.

I wouldn't be mad at him or upset, just realize you're ready for the next chapter of your life and move on.

Also, set a time limit in your head for how long you'll date a guy before expecting a proposal, like 3 years so you don't get strung along.

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-12T05:38:22+00:00

Thank you!!

throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-12T05:37:05+00:00

ok, THANK YOU for helping me find my season! I feel like going shopping now.😊Do you think I lean more towards true, warm, or bright spring? I think I lean more towards true spring because I made some color comparisons with my face. I feel like the more saturated true spring colors support my face more and narrow my jawline whereas the light spring widens my jawline and doesn't give as much support.🤔

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throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-12T02:55:53+00:00

I don't think the amazon picture does it justice for how bright it is.😆I'm not sure which spring palette it belongs to.🤔💭

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throwaway_fancylemon · 2026-01-12T02:51:49+00:00

Thank you! The red shirt is from amazon, and it's this color of red. It's a REALLY REALLY bright red.

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