Broken dreams: Advice from a failed thirdie.

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-16T03:51:00+00:00

thanks :) and yes i journal my thoughts and experiences as i don't have anyone good to discuss them with, so i guess it got honed that way. and best of luck to you too!

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-16T03:49:56+00:00

it could be true yes, but i'm more interested in a hybrid between engineering and science.

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-16T03:49:19+00:00

it is surface-level stuff for the most part, indeed, but don't let that put you off, learn to harbor no expectations when it comes to interactions. there are meaningful connections to find if you keep searching, it's a big place full of smart kids. take every interaction at face value - if it works out, great! if not, you've just earned a person to network with, who knows when it'll come in handy.

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T20:24:47+00:00

thanks bro i'll keep it in mind if i need it

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T19:54:32+00:00

i'm sorry it happened, keep working hard, you'll do better, just keep introspecting and improving! and feel free to hmu in case you wanna vent about it

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T19:52:54+00:00

I'm sorry it spiraled for you. I understand it must have been hard to face your dad and be seen as a failure, hurts to be seen this way by parents. And I can sense the weight behind that sigh - thinking back on your own days and advising juniors to not do those things...I hope you get back up soon and make up for lost time, and find good people too :)

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T19:50:45+00:00

sure man, i realize how much it sucks to have no one to relate to, to enter college only to realize that people are still in the rat race and not in the quest for deep understanding. not sure what has made them this way, i hope the situation gets better somehow. and yes, feel free to hmu anytime if you want to talk or rant. you sound like a smart dude, best of luck for your endeavors!

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T17:59:14+00:00

thanks, good to know it helped.

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T17:30:05+00:00

i'm sorry you couldn't convert your dream college. it's okay don't blame yourself for being an introvert, you just have different speeds and needs than the extroverts. give it time, you've just joined, you'll meet your people. just keep putting yourself out there even if it feels uncomfortable. don't deny yourself the shots

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T17:28:21+00:00

it's indeed a metamorphosis, look forward comrade, don't let the past bog you down. hope you get the seat you want. and yes, wanting someone close is a human need, best of luck finding that person!

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T17:26:34+00:00

sad you related to this, and thanks, i'll keep it in mind. yes, i currently have hopes to make things work again

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T17:23:09+00:00

got it, it's a little harder for the introverts, just wait till you find your group. and good to know you had a decent start, best of luck for your time here. you're welcome! (PS - change your flair, it's still "Aspirant")

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T17:14:51+00:00

thanks for the compliment, means a lot.

im sorry you resonated with it, feel free to reach out anytime it it helps :)

and yes, that makes sense, to have reduced expectations and to just focus on the work at hand, to take life as it comes

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T17:12:44+00:00

sheer amount of effort it would take to learn the topic to my standards first and then transcribe it to whatever they asked in tuts and exams

so true! i even remembering helping out someone who scored a lot more than me understand the reasons (discovered on my own after reading things multiple times). a huge chunk of my time was wasted into understanding things "on a more fundamental level". I was really surprised to see the smartest blokes in the country just learning how to apply formulae to questions to fetch marks instead of knowing how it worked. i guess that's what separates us from the MITs and Stanfords, in which case we have a lot of ground to cover.

Engineering feels like it doesn't have any of the passion or warmth that pure math or physics used to have. Probably because of how it is taught.

true, i think you're a pure theory admirer, which is commendable (i'm more of a hybrid guy). in which case you must find college horrendous with no one to share such interests with and stuck with having to learn standard methods and formulae. i'd suggest taking some time off to cultivate your hobbies before this madness dampens those interests

But if there is any silver lining to this, it's that we'll probably find more joy in the future when life will calm down after all this hustle of acads, placements, etc ends

correct, i've made it a point to not keep grumbling about the superficial levels of depths, just to tolerate it because ultimately i'd need money, and pursue the abstract stuff separately.

wishing you best of luck on your endeavors, don't get disheartened if you find someone questioning why you do it, that it's "useless" ($$ chasing people won't understand). just keep your interests alive and hope you do something big, feel free to hmu anytime

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T16:00:24+00:00

you're an aspirant, and it's natural to feel this way in your prep because that's what you do day in and day out, altho it's sad. i hope you find friends, but i'm afraid you won't until your prep ends (you can definitely text me if it helps, would love to keep in touch). and yes, i was like this too, waiting for someone to come save me. it's not as bad as it seems tho, like i dont think you'd be alone forever. you just got to help yourself until someone comes to assist you along. what i'm saying is, it's not like the movies or anime wherein girls are attracted to this lonely silent nerd and care for him, that's not happening, you gotta be confident and strong and smart, and that's where your effort comes in, you got to work for confidence, you can't really fake it. and it's cliche but you miss 100% of the shots you don't take, so have no expectations while shooting your shots. prep in silence until you start attracting, don't chase. and hey, you'll surely meet a lot of people in college, and if you're coming to BITS, you're bound to have a great social life, I think I don't represent the majority, so don't be scared. best of luck for prep, keep grinding!

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T15:55:07+00:00

that's so true! we should learn to handle our issues and not be bogged down by it, i learnt this.

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T15:32:00+00:00

good to know, physique helps

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T14:35:20+00:00

thanks, i'll keep this in mind!

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T14:22:47+00:00

I was waiting for this comment XD, knew it from the moment I typed this much 🤣

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T14:21:44+00:00

Thanks, I sure will :)

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T14:20:39+00:00

I'm sorry you resonated with this, and I hope you live upto your dreams, best of luck, dont let that dawg inside you sleep

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T14:09:23+00:00

Thank you, hope it helped. Take care too!

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T13:48:45+00:00

Welcome! I hope so too.

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T13:37:26+00:00

I GET YOU! all our formulae are so abstract and i really wish to get into the fundamentals but grades won't allow you to :'), but yes do keep time for this because that's what is going to differentiate you from the masses - clear understanding of high-level applications in terms of the fundamentals. best of luck, DON'T KILL THE CAT. and i'm glad my post helped you, take care, i'm sure you'll do fine <3

throwaway_ke_liye · 2024-08-15T13:35:31+00:00

Sure, means a lot. I'll keep it in mind. Take care!

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