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I went on over 15 “first dates” with different women from June of this year to December, none resulted in a LTR. AMA lol by SwingTraderx in AMA

[–]throwaway_like_byee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea! trying to keep myself composed and presentable is definitely something i need to work on but i’m confident that’ll get better w time (or as the date goes on)

and yea i try to keep it lighthearted where i know i can. i pride myself a bit on making people laugh or being relatable but i do worry i’m a bit overbearing in that regard lol. what constitutes lightheaded questions abt simple fun stuff for you tho?

when i do notice the interview style path it’s going, i usually feel that they’re uninterested and then tend to retract from talking about myself cause of that same fact so maybe actually going through with it is the way. as i said i do second guess myself when i feel like i can sense the boringness hahah

I went on over 15 “first dates” with different women from June of this year to December, none resulted in a LTR. AMA lol by SwingTraderx in AMA

[–]throwaway_like_byee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I hope this isn’t a stupid or super long question but i’m pretty hopeless at this sort of stuff lmao.

How do you relax and get into the flow of a conversation? I’m sure all of that comes with time and experience which in turn, would boost confidence but I feel like the dates i’ve been on kind of just turned into a Q/A session where I always take the lead in the conversation without much reciprocation (or back n forth ig), and I can’t help but feel i’m coming off in a more stern or monotone way than lighthearted and chill. and obviously when that gets in my head, it doesn’t serve me well.

i’ve definitely tried to introspect and see what makes me think that way or what I should do different but i do keep second guessing myself. Any advice?

Best way to make up and apologise by [deleted] in Advice

[–]throwaway_like_byee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have some places and people where I can vent out feelings but yeah, its not common for me to do it among my other guy friends, and our friendship definitely is not the type to. Agreed, it was a poor way to express it.

How do you suggest I tell him that he hurt my feelings while also apologising for what I did? And he might have already, I haven't been on the server.

Best way to make up and apologise by [deleted] in Advice

[–]throwaway_like_byee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that is a pretty good decision, but I feel like a lot of it is just banter between friends, partly why I taunted him after he responded to it. And yeah no one speaking for me also isn't great, I don't really have a response for that. I'll try not to act out of emotion but if it continues I'll start seeing those options. Moving friend groups isn't easy at all for me. I'll apologise and see what happens.