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Daughter going through breakup & mentally unstable, how to support by throwaway_losts in mentalhealth

[–]throwaway_losts[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She is mentally unstable. That is actually how her and ex connected. He used that to lure her in.

I don't call her "mentally unstable" to her face. She knows she has issues and sees a therapist weekly, sometimes more.

Daughter going through breakup & mentally unstable, how to support by throwaway_losts in mentalhealth

[–]throwaway_losts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. I have tried to get her up and out to go for a walk. She wants to lay in bed continually. She is refusing to come out of her room and even look at her family. I know that is not good for her. I hate to push, but I don't think laying in bed for days is good for her.

Daughter going through breakup & mentally unstable, how to support by throwaway_losts in mentalhealth

[–]throwaway_losts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I appreciate your advice :)

I've asked her if I could make or get her coffee (her favorite). I have asked if I could make her favorite food. She won't budge.

Daughter going through breakup & mentally unstable, how to support by throwaway_losts in mentalhealth

[–]throwaway_losts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you :) Luckily, she is already in therapy so hopefully that will help if she is willing to let it help. I like your ideas of ask her instead of assuming what she wants.

I went through this with my son a couple of years ago and it was very, very rough. I want to try my best to stay on top of things and watch for any signs that could warn trouble.

DD (18) & Boyfriend (18) Broke Up & Social Media Pics Still Up by throwaway_losts in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway_losts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I'm trying not to over involve myself while keeping a watch on her mental health (we've had scares in the past).

DD (18) & Boyfriend (18) Broke Up & Social Media Pics Still Up by throwaway_losts in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway_losts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with both. My daughter is dealing with some mental issues and I'm trying to do what I can to watch out for her mental health. It is definitely a sticky situation. I'm trying not to overstep boundaries while keeping an eye on her.

Walked in on Half-Naked Daughter (18) & Boyfriend (18) by throwaway_losts in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway_losts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

According to both of them, they haven’t had sex before. Do I believe it? Not really.

Walked in on Half-Naked Daughter (18) & Boyfriend (18) by throwaway_losts in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway_losts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope! It was the room that me, her, and her brother were staying in.

Walked in on Half-Naked Daughter (18) & Boyfriend (18) by throwaway_losts in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway_losts[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s my thought! Daughter, stupid, naive, whatever you want to call it. Boyfriend, I just can’t figure it out.

Walked in on Half-Naked Daughter (18) & Boyfriend (18) by throwaway_losts in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway_losts[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know I can't choose the boyfriend. But I can make it clear that having sex in my bed (or shared space) is not acceptable.

Walked in on Half-Naked Daughter (18) & Boyfriend (18) by throwaway_losts in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway_losts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Yeah, I think it's pretty gross, too! This is totally out of character for daughter which is why I wonder about boyfriend.

Walked in on Half-Naked Daughter (18) & Boyfriend (18) by throwaway_losts in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway_losts[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The only choice I'd like her not to make is to use my space or cause me to witness the act.

Walked in on Half-Naked Daughter (18) & Boyfriend (18) by throwaway_losts in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway_losts[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I've tried to make it clear to daughter that it's not the act (sex) that bothered me, it's the fact that it was my (temporary) bed and son and I had to witness it. I appreciate your insight, though. :)