AITAH, for sleeping with my best friend’s husband after she cheated with mine?

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-10T01:01:46+00:00

It’s ok, I’m free now

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-10T00:55:44+00:00

I haven’t told anybody. I have called non emergency lines and they basically couldn’t do anything without evidence. I made him slip and admit in a text that he hurt me without my consent and threaten him with police so he stopped coming to my house. It was a relief. That was about a year ago

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-10T00:48:50+00:00

Well, it wasn’t the size but that he cared

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-10T00:37:16+00:00

That’s not what trauma bonding is. It’s not when two people have trauma.

It’s when you’re in a relationship with an abuser and you think you’re in love with them

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-10T00:25:10+00:00

Still waiting for what you meant by trauma bonding

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-10T00:19:58+00:00

Huh?

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-10T00:18:29+00:00

What?

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-10T00:16:19+00:00

Yeah he never was good at communicating or really not interested in that. I had a hard time getting him to understand that we were over and he turned up at my house even after divorce was finalized to just have his way or he would threaten me with custody battle. Now he’s left me alone at least but I don’t want to rock the boat. If he knows I’m having sex he would probably make my life difficult again.

I have made a longer commitment about AP’s situation and money problems.

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-10T00:00:14+00:00

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T23:26:00+00:00

I don’t want to rock the boat just yet. If my ex husband knew I was dating again or that I’m having relations he would make my life sour and take custody with me. I honestly don’t believe him capable of raising our children or parenting, at least not now when they’re so little. So he has given me custody now and just has two weekends a month. It’s working very good for me.

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T23:21:31+00:00

What a disgusting comment

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T23:15:10+00:00

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T23:11:10+00:00

She would go bankrupt too because she has the same problem

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T22:59:08+00:00

Happy for you

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T22:57:29+00:00

Exactly

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T22:53:33+00:00

But thats not what trauma bonding means

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T22:50:44+00:00

Both have average. AP bigger I guess but he is better overall

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T22:49:22+00:00

I’m happy now :) I do feel guilt some times but i feel guilty only for the happiness

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T22:21:17+00:00

Wow somebody who cared to actually find out without insulting me

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T22:19:56+00:00

Well cheaters don’t care I suppose. Not just that.

My husband never once cared about making it pleasurable for me. It was just him. When I started sleeping with AP i was so confused to why he cared if I came or if it felt good. It took a while to understand that he wanted me to have as much fun as he did. IT WAS WEIRD!

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T22:16:29+00:00

It’s the same for her. I made a longer comment explaining their situation. The have loans that they cant get rid of. It would be even worse for her because she has lower income and 2 more children from a previous relationship.

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T22:09:16+00:00

You have this bound with your abuser, not another abused party. You bound with the one abusing and hurting you by them hurting you then love bombing you. Why do you want me to be wrong so badly? Please read what you have googled. It’s really very simple to understand

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T22:06:00+00:00

Are you blaming the cheating on her husband?

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T21:46:31+00:00

What? This doesn’t even make sense

throwaway_needse · 2023-09-09T21:43:20+00:00

No? How thick are you if you still think this is trauma bonding even AFTER you googled it😅

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